Being an alpha male means more than just being the loudest and toughest guy around. While most people think that all you have to do to be considered an alpha is to be as domineering and intimidating as possible, in reality, that’s not the way of an alpha.
As humans, we rely more on our brains than brawns to solve problems, that’s why you will never see real alphas fighting people who insult them, or start confrontations with other men just because they feel like they have to prove something. Real alphas usually are on top because they don’t let such things get to them.
But you probably already knew that, and actually want to know what make someone alpha and more importantly, if you already are one. That’s why you should consider the following…
Do You Have Emotional Maturity?
Emotional maturity is one aspect of being an alpha. While you might not get into a fistfight with the first guy that insults you, you probably still need to use a lot of restraint from keeping yourself from reacting to it in some way. So, even when on the outside you might look like everything is cool, on the inside you are still being affected, and probably have a hard time getting over the fact that someone insulted you. But if you want to be an alpha, you have to let go of this!
The truth is that an alpha male doesn’t get caught in the emotional turmoil others create. So when someone insults him, he feels no need go on the defensive and defend himself at all costs because he doesn’t care what others say to/about him. In fact, he doesn’t react at all because he feels no need to do it. Naturally, this kind of behavior isn’t limited to only physical altercations but extends to all kinds of social interactions. An alpha simply doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him. He is in control of his emotions and doesn’t let them dictate his behavior.
Naturally, this kind of behavior isn’t limited to only physical altercations but extends to all kinds of social interactions. An alpha simply doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him. He is in control of his emotions and doesn’t let them dictate his behavior. He is the one in control of his emotions and no one can take that away from him. The only person who can influence him and whose opinion he really considers and values is himself. He doesn’t need to validate himself to others, to feel better about himself – something most guys do.
As you can guess, someone with such a mindset needs to have a very highly positive opinion of himself. This means that he will never second guess or consider himself not worthy of something he intends to pursue. He is happy with who he is and never doubts in it.
But then again, for most guys, an alpha male is someone who is good with women, so let’s go over this aspect as well…
The Alpha and Girls
A lot of guys associate being an alpha with getting girls because he is usually the one most girls want. And while he will always have more women than the average guy simply because his attitude makes him different from the rest, it’s not his defining attribute.
Because he knows who he is and what he wants out of life, he will never start to chase women like others do. Yes, he will always be the one who makes the first step, but he will never start to desperate pursue a woman he finds attractive. If she isn’t interested, he will move on and find another, but he will never get too hung up on a girl “that got away.”
And while we already determined that an alpha doesn’t concern himself with the opinion of others, this also goes for his interactions with women. He approaches women without worrying what they could be thinking or saying to him. Since he isn’t expecting a certain outcome, he will not fret about things like rejection or ridicule.
Like already mentioned, since an alpha never pursues women and doesn’t worry about failing, he stands out from most men. This puts him in a unique position – position, most men will never be in – where he will be extremely attractive to women and they will actually chase him! And because of this, he will always have abundance with women. It’s just a “side effect” of his lifestyle and authenticity.
There Is So Much More…
If you’re asking yourself the “am I an alpha male” question, then you won’t find the answer simply in just one article. Emotional maturity and success with women are just small parts of being one. That’s why you should really take a look inside and see if there is something you are still struggling with. Are you emotionally mature enough? Do you worry what others think of you? If yes, then fix it, because this is what makes you an alpha!
But if you still have doubts about this topic (and most likely you do!) and want to know how to truly become an alpha, then I have the perfect book for you! It’s called Rules of the Alpha Male and it takes a very thorough look at who exactly an alpha is and what it takes to become one. So if you still struggle to with this question, you will find the answer in this book!