If you got here and aren’t even sure what the alpha male mentality is, then you should visit this article before continuing: what’s the alpha male mentality?
Let’s start right off the bat by saying that it is not going to be easy to develop the alpha male mindset, otherwise, there would be many more alpha males walking around. It is a process that requires your time and effort (a lot of effort) to develop and internalize. For some men, this process can take years and still not get them quite where they want to be.
I have probably mentioned this already several times on this site, but in order to develop the alpha male mentality, one has to give up many assumptions about the opposite sex and adopt a completely new way of thinking. If you fail to do these two things, you might as well not even bother trying, because you will fail.
So, let’s look at these two things that bring you a couple of step closer to becoming an alpha male.
A New to Look at Women
Many men desperately want to become alpha males because of the way they see women. They assume that women are way above them and the only way to level the playing field is to become an alpha and rise to their heights. They give so much value to a girl, especially a beautiful one, that they forget their own. This obviously leaves them at a huge disadvantage.
To truly become an alpha, you have to give up this way of thinking. Women are not above you. If you think that just because a girl won at the genetic lottery, she will be way better than anybody else, you will always get rejected by her.
Not only shouldn’t you treat beautiful women differently, they don’t want you to. This is the reason why a hot girl rejects most men who approach her – guys treat her like royalty and kiss up to her. Only a man who doesn’t see her as this “unique butterfly” will have a chance with her. The irony here is that she will consider him as the special one.
So if you took anything from the last paragraph, you should already know why an alpha male is so successful with hot women – he doesn’t treat them any differently than others. He doesn’t suck up to them because he knows that a hot girl has as much value as an average girl. His opinion of her isn’t solely based on her looks.
What does this all mean to you? Well, for once, you should give up this assumption that hot girls are somehow more special. But also that to attract one girl, all you would have to do is to treat her like any other. By doing so, you would not have to “climb up” to her level and just see her as an equal.
This might sound like it’s easy but you most likely already know that in practice, it’s not that simple. This is why you have to give up a lot of your limiting beliefs you still have. And to do that, is a challenge by itself.
It’s unreal how many men blame their surroundings for their own failures. They can come up with all kinds of excuses why they’re still aren’t where they want to be. This is mostly because they aren’t ready to take responsibility for their own failures.
When an average dude can’t attract the woman he wants, he comes up with any kind of excuse for his failure. None of them, however, include his own shortcomings. Either it’s the fault of the woman or something that is way out of his control.
While there are some situations that truly are out of your control, you still should avoid blaming everything and everyone else around you. You’re in your current predicament because of your own choices and actions. This is why you should take responsibility for your situation, and if you’re not satisfied with it, do everything in your power to change it. That’s how an alpha male behaves – he takes responsibility.
If you’re still unsuccessful with women but think that this is not your fault, then it’s time to own up to it and admit to yourself that if you wanted to, you could change. For example, if you are still single and want to find a girlfriend, then it’s up to you to do everything you can and find her. No one else is going to do it for you and you should never expect it!
Treat beautiful women like everybody else and take responsibility for your actions. In short, this is how you would start developing an alpha male mentality. Of course, you would also need to learn much more (I told you it’s not going to be easy) but getting rid of these two sticking points will definitely help you to become better with women and take you a couple of steps closer to becoming an alpha.
Just one more thing. If you try to develop the alpha male mindset only because you want to become successful with women, then don’t! Instead of trying to become an alpha, become the best version of yourself and take a lot of pressure off your shoulders. Guys who desperately chase it, hardly ever reach it because they do it for all the wrong reasons.