Being a confident guy will really make the difference when your goal is to attract and seduce women. Confidence is one trait that women will always find attractive in a man and therefore should be seen as something that needs to be cultivated. And seriously, who of us wouldn't want to become a more confident person? Confidence will not only make a difference in your life with the opposite sex, but it will also have an impact on most aspects of your life.
If you want to become a confident man, you have to accept that it's a process that takes time and effort. Nevertheless, there are still a lot of people who are looking for some easy ways to do it. But surely there isn't anything they can actually do to improve your confidence effortlessly and fast? Well, there is. By using some simple body language "hacks," you can instantly feel more confident.
Simple Body Language Tips for Confidence
Now, I have said it before and will say it again: the road to true confidence is a long and hard one. That's also why it needs to be mentioned that these simple body language hacks suggested here won't offer you a permanent fix. They are merely tools for helping you to boost your confidence a little for a short period of time. But with that being said, they are still something that can give you an advantage whenever you need to feel more confident in a situation.
You're probably wondering now what these mysterious body language "hacks" are. Well, it is actually quite simple. They are so-called "power poses" that can give you a boost of confidence. This means that you take on poses confident people use and in turn, this will have a reverse effect on your mindset. In scientific speak: you raise your testosterone levels with power poses and this helps you become more confident (you can see more here).
Anyway, let's take a look at these power poses (with the exception of the first one, they don't have any real names, so I'm just going to call them poses):
The Wonder Woman. Do not let the name fool you, this works as well on men as it does on women. The reason for the name is because of the America TV series it is called after - Wonder Woman. Basically, this is how she used to stand. To take this pose, stand with your chest out, hands on your hips and feet wide apart.
But if you are still having trouble getting over the name thing, this is also how Superman sometimes used to stand.
Pose two. For this, you need to be sitting behind a desk. You will have to put your feet up on the desk and cross your feet, lean back, put your hands behind your head (cross your fingers) with elbows upwards. People usually imagine a big company CEO taking this pose behind his desk.
Pose three. Sitting in a chair with spread legs, one of your arms (or both) over the back of your chair next to you. This looks like a very laid back, confident pose.
Pose four. While you are sitting down, cross one leg over the knee of other, your elbows up and hands behind the head. Leaning back a bit will also help with the pose.
Pose five. Standing up and leaning over the edge of the table, your arms shoulder-width apart and fingers spread out on the table. This is a very dominant (again, think CEO) pose.
I know these descriptions were quite short and maybe not that easy to understand for everyone. To get a better idea of how these poses should be taken, I highly recommend you watch the TED talk about it below. Not only will you see the poses but you will get a better understanding of how they affect you.
The Importance of Body Language
As you saw, these were some very simple things you can implement to immediately boost your confidence. Now, like mentioned before, these body language poses aren't an end-all-be-all solution to making you confident. But it's a good idea to try them if you want to appear more attractive to girls.
It's also a good idea to improve your overall body language as well whenever you interact with other people. There is a simple reason why your body language matters when you want the be seen as attractive - women still look at visual cues when they decide if a man is attractive or not (appearance isn't everything). This is where you can set yourself apart from men with terrible body language, even when you aren't the most confident person in the room. A confident body language will make you stand out.
For a better understanding how your body language will affect women, take a look at our 8 tips about attractive male body language.