Is it true that giving the other person space means that you’re about to lose them?
Or does it only mean that they need some time apart from you to think some things through?
No matter which it is, still a situation you don’t want to be in!
But what can you do in an instance like this?
What can you do when things have gone this far where your girlfriend asks you for some time apart?
Well, here’s the thing:
There is something you should know when you are giving someone space…
The Harsh Truth You Have to Face
You have to face it, the only one thing you can do when your girlfriend asks for space: you give her some space!
This means that she shouldn’t be hearing from you in any way before she has made up her mind!
If you promised to give her space but are still constantly pressuring her, or trying to convince her to come back, you will get the result you are trying to avoid – she will leave you.
If you are asking the question “how to give someone space without losing them,” then you are really asking the wrong question.
You’re at the stage where the decision whether she’s coming back or not it’s most likely out of your hands and there is nothing you can do about it.
Unless you know exactly what went wrong in the relationship and know how to fix it, you shouldn’t try to mend the situation.
And even if you know how to fix it, it’s still better to give her some time to think things through, before trying to convince her.
So, why the hell this article if there’s nothing you can do?
Let me tell you!
When you give her some space – instead of thinking about all the ways to get her back – you should actually take this time for some sorely needed self-reflection.
You have to take a critical look inside and try to figure out the reason why she decided she needs some time apart from you!
Sure, it can be that the reason she asked for a timeout has nothing to do with you, but if she decided to face it on her own instead of together with you, it’s probably because of you!
When a girl asks for some time apart, there has to be a deeper reason why she started doubting in you in the first place.
This means that you have to figure it out so it won’t happen again!
Even if you lose her, the same thing will keep happening in your next relationships, if you don’t fix what is going wrong.
The Reason Why She Needs Space
There could be many reasons why she might need some time apart from you.
But if you can’t even give her space to think things through because you are terrified of the thought that she might leave you, then this usually comes down to one reason:
You are too dependent on her to feel good.
In turn, this dependency makes you very desperate and needy when you’re in a relationship with her.
If you know anything about women, then you should know that they don’t want to be with someone who needs them. Sure, a guy who wants them is attractive, but someone who needs them to feel better about himself is an instant turnoff!
When a guy needs to be with a woman it’s a clear indication that he doesn’t have anything going on in his life and needs her to make up for it.
No matter how much “positive” he puts in a relationship, he takes out way more with his constant need for affection and validation. So, if you can’t bring yourself to give her the space to think, then you are way too needy and desperate.
In a case like this, you will do more harm than good when trying to get her back.
It will most likely push her away even further from you because she will realize how suffocating you actually are.
All you can really do is to fix this behavior and hope for the best.
So, if you’re ever in the situation where you have to give someone space, then actually do it and don’t try to influence their decision.
Even more importantly, take this as a sign that you need to change something so it won’t happen again!
While her decision is out of your control, what you do with your life is not! This means that even if you happen to lose her, you still have the power to change things, so you don’t repeat your mistake.
If you decide to change your life so you will never have to face such helpless situations ever again, then I got something for you that can help you to achieve that.
It’s called Rules of the Alpha Male and it will teach you how to turn yourself into someone women want to stick around.