Is it true that giving the other person space means that you’re about to lose them? Or does it only mean that they need some time apart from you to think some things through? No matter which it is, still a situation you don’t want to be in. But what can you do in an instance like this?
When things have gone this far where your girlfriend asks you for some time apart, there is one thing you have to do: you give her some space! This means that she shouldn’t be hearing from you in any way before she has made up her mind! Because, if you promise to give her space but still constantly pressure her, or try to convince her to come back, you will get the result you are trying to avoid – she will leave you.
But there is another very important thing you should do when you are giving someone space…
The Harsh Truth You Have to Face
If you are asking the question “how to give someone space without losing them,” then you are really asking the wrong question. You’re now at the stage where the decision whether she’s coming back or not it’s out of your hands and there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise.
Unless you know exactly what went wrong in the relationship and know how to fix it, you shouldn’t try to mend the situation. And even if you know how to fix it, it’s still better to give her some time to think things through before trying to convince her.
When you give her some space, instead of thinking about all the ways to get her back, you should actually take this time for something more important: self-reflection. You have to take a critical look inside and try to figure out the reason why she decided she needs some time apart from you! Sure, it can be that the reason she asked for a timeout has nothing to do with you, but if she decided to face it on her own instead of together with you, it’s very likely that the problem is with you!
When a girl asks for some time apart, there has to be a deeper reason why she started doubting in you in the first place. This means that you have to figure it out so it won’t happen again! Even if you lose her, the same thing will keep happening in your next relationships, if you don’t fix what you’re doing wrong.
The Reason Why She Needs Space
There could be many reasons why she might need some time apart from you. But if you can’t even give her space to think things through because you are terrified of the thought that she might leave you, then this usually comes down to one reason: you are too dependent on her to feel good. And in turn, this dependency makes you very desperate and needy when you’re in a relationship with her.
If you know anything about women, then you should know that they don’t want to be with someone who needs them. Sure, a guy who wants them is attractive, but someone who needs them to feel better about himself is definitely not! It’s a clear indication that he doesn’t have anything going on in his life and needs her to make up for it. No matter how much “positive” he put in it, he takes way more out of this relationship with his constant need for affection and validation.
So, if you can’t bring yourself to give her the needed space because she might leave you, then you are way too needy and desperate. In a case like this, you will do more harm than good when you’re trying to get her back. It will most likely push her even further away from you because she will realize how suffocating you actually are. All you can do is to fix this behavior and hope for the best.
So, if you’re ever in the situation where you have to give someone space, then actually do it and don’t try to influence their decision. But more importantly, take this as a sign that you need to change something so it won’t happen again. While her decision is out of your control, what you do with your life is not! This means that even if you happen to lose her, you still have the power to change things, so it won’t happen again.
If you decide to change your life so you will never have to face such helpless situations ever again, then I got something for you that can help you to achieve that. It’s called Rules of the Alpha Male and it will teach you how to turn yourself into someone women want to stick around.