The last time I wrote about body language, I gave tips on how to recognize if a woman is attracted to you by reading hers. But believe it or not, women are very good at reading your body language as well. That’s why it’s important for you to know some body language signs of an attractive male so you have a better understanding what women react to.
To make a side note here: body language is important when you are talking to and flirting with women but it’s not the biggest deciding factor. You can have the best body language in the world but when you can’t stay confident and congruent in your interactions, a girl will notice that something is off and reject you. Or, you can demonstrate a terrible body language, but if you manage to stay congruent, you will still get the girl attracted. Nevertheless, knowing about the body language of an attractive male and what influence it has on women is a great benefit to have.
Oftentimes just changing your body language can have a positive effect on your behavior. It can make you more sure of yourself. But like I said, it’s not a cure for all. If you feel insecure and doubt yourself, you will have a hard time showing it. So, here are some things you should and shouldn’t do when you want to learn about the attractive male body language (some examples are only intended for the club environment but most of them are for all situations):
A good posture. I really don’t have to go very deep into this one, right? It shouldn’t come as surprise to you, that nothing says better you are an alpha male, than having a good posture. It shows people around you that you feel confident in your own body. People who feel insecure often have a terrible posture. They are either too stiff or try to make themselves look as small as possible (by slouching). Keep your chest elevated and your shoulders back!
Crossing arms. This one shouldn’t come to you as a surprise either. When you cross you arms, you demonstrate a closed body language and this tells a woman “Don’t approach me!” I have seen so many guys do this in clubs, it’s frightening (sometimes even for the girl). Think about it, when was the last time you saw someone cross their arms and laugh? Usually people cross their arms when they disagree with someone, or when they are cold.
When you approach a woman who has her arms crossed, your first goal should be doing everything so she uncrosses them.
Taking up space. A guy with an attractive male body language, isn’t afraid to take up more space. If you look at confident people, they usually occupy more space (no, this doesn’t mean they are fatter!). Some aren’t even aware of it and at times need to be reminded that they should make room for others. This however, is also a good indicator that they feel comfortable in their body. Remember what I said earlier? Nervous people make themselves look as small as possible (to occupy less space) and this means that confident people do the exact opposite (take up space). So, don’t be afraid to take up more space than needed.
A warning for you though: if you are thinking about using this to your advantage, don’t overdo it! Don’t go into cinemas, elevators or even clubs/bars and try intentionally to occupy the most space possible so that other people have a hard time walking past you. This kind of behavior makes you look like a dick and it’s in no way attractive for women.
Slowing down movements. To make yourself look more confident and natural to others, try to slow down your movements. For example, if you move around, make your movements look as smooth as possible. If you are talking to a group, turn your head slowly towards the speaker and try to match your talking speed with your movements.
Moving feet to the side. If you are interacting with new people, don’t turn your body straight towards them. Try to keep it slightly to the side, so that only your head is facing them. You can do this by turning your feet slightly to the side and let your body follow. This will give them the impression that you are about to walk away. It also reduces the pressure in an interaction with a woman and will feel more comfortable for both parties.
Tip: If a girl you are talking to points her feet towards you, she might be interested in you.
Staying comfortable. The body language of a naturally attractive male looks always comfortable. So every time you interact with a girl and you have to move yourself out of this comfortable zone, you are doing it wrong – you are not demonstrating the body language of an attractive male. If you manage to feel comfortable in every position (standing, sitting, crouching, lying down) then you are doing it right.
Also, when you need to lean in (make yourself uncomfortable) to talk to a woman, you reducing your status. The better approach here is to lean back (you are comfortable) when talking so others have to lean in. This gives you more status because you make others react to you.
I once saw a guy who went the extra mile just to talk to some girls by crouching down to their level (they were sitting and he looked very uncomfortable) and leaning in so they could hear him. He got rejected pretty fast.
Holding drink by your side. When you are in a club environment and bought yourself a drink, hold it by your side and not in front of you. I see this in clubs every time: many guys walking around with their drinks in front of their chest. This is a shielding move (like crossing your arms) and will turn your body language into a closed one. However, when you hold your drink by your side, your posture looks open and relaxed, therefore you have a better body language.
The only setback here is that some dumbass can bump into you and spill your drink. So, if it gets too crowded, bring your drink back where it’s visible.
Strong eye contact. An alpha male knows to hold eye contact with a woman he is attracted to. Maintaining eye contact with a girl is a crucial step when mastering the body language of an attractive male. Even if you do everything else right but can’t hold eye contact longer than a few seconds and let your eyes wander around the room (or worse – look down), you are still demonstrating weak body language and should be ashamed of yourself! Just kidding, but you should definitely work on this.
These were some attractive male body language signs that hopefully give you a better understanding how an attractive male behaves. But like I said in the beginning of the article, they aren’t the deciding factors in attraction. A guy who has no clue about body language, but who has no problems approaching and interacting with women, will demonstrate most of these qualities.
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