Believe it or not, women are very good at reading your body language. That’s why it’s important for you to know some body language signs of an attractive male, so you have a better understanding what women react to.
To make a side note here: confident body language is important when you are talking to and flirting with women, but it’s by far not the most important factor. You demonstrate the best body language in the world, but if you don’t stay confident and congruent in your interactions, a girl will notice that something is off and still reject you. Or, you can demonstrate terrible body language, but if you just manage to stay congruent, you will still get the girl attracted.
Nevertheless, knowing about the body language of an attractive male and what influence it has on women is a great benefit to have. But always remember that body language will get you only halfway there, you need to develop the right mindset that makes you attractive and irresistible! For that, I recommend you take a look at Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. It is by far the best investment I have ever made in my dating life.
How to Display Attractive Body Language
Often just changing your body language can have a positive effect on your behavior. It can make you more sure of yourself. But like I said, it’s not a cure for all. If you feel insecure and doubt yourself, you will have a hard time showing it. So, here are some things you should and shouldn’t do when you want to learn about the attractive male body language (some examples are only intended for the club environment, but most of them will fit for all situations):
A good posture. I really don’t have to go very deep into this one, right? It shouldn’t come as a surprise to you, that nothing says better you are an alpha male than having a good posture. It shows people around you that you feel confident in your own body. Insecure people often have a terrible posture. They are either too stiff or try to make themselves look as small as possible (by slouching). Keep your chest elevated and your shoulders back!
Crossing arms. This one shouldn’t come to you as a surprise either. When you cross your arms, you demonstrate a closed body language, and this tells a woman “stay away!” It’s frightening how many guys I have seen do this in clubs (sometimes even in front of the girl). Think about it, when was the last time you saw someone cross their arms and laugh? Usually, people only cross their arms when they disagree with someone, or when they are cold.
When you approach a woman who has her arms crossed, your first goal should be doing everything to make her uncrosses them.
Taking up space. A guy with an attractive male body language isn’t afraid to take up more space. If you look at confident people then you can notice on distinct thing about them – they usually occupy more space. No, this doesn’t mean they are fat! Some aren’t even aware of it and at times need to be reminded that they should make room for others.
This kind of behavior is a good indicator that they feel comfortable in their body. Remember what I said earlier? Nervous people make themselves look as small as possible (to occupy less space), and this means that confident people do the exact opposite (take up space). So, don’t be afraid to take up more space than needed.
A warning for you, though: if you are thinking about using this to your advantage, don’t overdo it! Don’t go into cinemas, elevators or even clubs/bars and try intentionally to occupy the most space possible so that other people have a hard time walking past you. This kind of behavior makes you look like a douchebag, and it’s in no way attractive.
Slowing down movements. To make yourself look more confident and natural to others, try to slow down your movements. For example, if you move around, make your body gestures look as smooth as possible. While you are talking to someone, turn your head slowly towards them and try to match your talking speed with your movements.
This works so well because it makes you seem very comfortable in your body. It also has the added benefit of actually making you more comfortable and relaxed.*
Moving feet to the side. If you are interacting with new people, don’t turn your body straight towards them. Try to keep it slightly to the side, so that only your head is facing them. You can do this by turning your feet slightly to the side and let your body follow. This will give them the impression that you are about to walk away. It also reduces the tension in an interaction with a woman and will feel more comfortable for both parties.
Tip: If a girl you are talking to points her feet towards you, she might be interested in you.
Staying comfortable. The body language of a naturally attractive male always looks comfortable. So every time you interact with a girl, and you have to move out of this comfort zone, you are doing it wrong – you are not demonstrating the body language of an attractive male. If you manage to feel comfortable in every position (standing, sitting, crouching, lying down) then you are doing it right.
Also, when you need to lean in (make yourself uncomfortable) to talk to a woman, you reducing your status. The better approach here is to lean back (you are comfortable) when talking, so others have to lean in. This gives you more status because you make others react to you.
I once saw a guy who went the extra mile just to talk to some girls by crouching down to their level (they were sitting) and leaning in so they could hear him. But his body language was off and he looked very uncomfortable. As you can already guess, he got rejected rather fast.
Holding drink by your side. When you are in a club environment and bought yourself a drink, keep it by your side and not in front of you. I see this in clubs every time: many guys walking around with their drinks in front of their chest. This is a shielding move (like crossing your arms) and will turn your body language into a closed one. However, when you hold your drink by your side, your posture looks open and relaxed; therefore, you have a better body language.
The only setback here is that someone can bump into you and spill your drink. So, if it gets too crowded, bring your drink back where it’s visible.
Strong eye contact. An alpha male knows to hold eye contact with a woman he is attracted to. Maintaining eye contact with a girl is a crucial step when mastering the body language of an attractive male. Even if you do everything else right but can’t hold eye contact longer than a few seconds and let your eyes wander around the room (or worse – look down), you are still demonstrating weak body language and should be ashamed of yourself! Just kidding, but you should definitely work on this, though.
These were some attractive male body language signs that hopefully give you a better understanding how an attractive male behaves. But like I said in the beginning of the article, they aren’t the deciding factors in attraction.
A guy who has no clue about confident body language, but never worries about approaching and interacting with women, will demonstrate most of these qualities naturally.
It is better to have the attitude of an alpha male than to constantly try to micromanage every little movement you make. Displaying attractive body language is important, just don’t start relying on it too much. Strong core beliefs and identity are the foundations that will give you the edge in your interactions with most girls.
*The effect of posture: Study: Body Posture Affects Confidence
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