If you would ask a thousand women what kind of guy they are looking for, most of them would tell you – a nice guy who will treat them right. But is this really the truth? What exactly does it mean when a woman says “I just want a nice guy”?
The majority of men who have no success with women are nice guys. And there is actually nothing wrong with being nice. It’s a very positive quality. However, being overly nice won’t help you to get the girls you really want.
The Problem with Being Nice
First, let’s address a problem most guys struggle to understand.
When a woman tells you she wants a nice guy, she will probably not have the same definition of the word as you. She really is looking for a nice guy, but guys who try to be nice will often misinterpret what she means by that. The problem is that they act like complete wimps around her by doing everything to please her. A woman who is searching for a “nice guy” is definitely not asking to be put on a pedestal. She is looking for a man with strong character who treats her nice.
How many times have you heard a guy saying this: “If only she would be with me, I would do everything for her! I would treat her right, not like (the guys she is always dating)”? Now don’t get me wrong. Women are wonderful and all, but they are also human beings and do not want your worshiping, treating them “right” or doing everything for them. When you put a girl on a pedestal, you are telling her that she has much more value than you. And if you think she would like that, then think again; no woman wants that!
The truth is: if you take a closer look at what’s really going on, you will realize that there is a logical pattern in her behavior. A woman doesn’t need a man who is desperately trying to do everything for her, she needs a man who is in control of his own emotions and can support her when she feels vulnerable. She needs a person she can trust and count on when needed. That’s why you can not afford to be the one who brings less value to the relationship.
If you rid yourself from the thought that a woman is someone like a goddess and start facing the reality – she is just a normal human being – you will start treating her that way. And isn’t this a relieving feeling?
So, now that we cleared this one up let’s address a much bigger problem.
What are Women Actually Attracted To?
Nice guys nowadays believe firmly that women are only attracted to jerks. Many nice guys even go so far by blaming them for it. Sure, there are some girls who are attracted to jerks but blaming them for it, is just unacceptable! No woman in her right mind wants a jerk who will physically and mentally abuse her. The only reason these women find jerks attractive is because he conveys some alpha male characteristics, traits, the nice guy totally lacks (this is also a reason why women prefer jerks over nice guys).
If nice guys would stop blaming women, look at what the jerk does right and take some responsibility by starting to improve their situations, they would instantly become more attractive to the opposite sex.
Basically, you could identify main traits in a man that women are attracted to. If you want to learn more about them, I suggest you take a look at the Girlfriend Activation System. It will teach you everything that you need to know about what makes someone attractive to women, and like the name already says, helps you to get a girlfriend (if that’s what you want).