Have you ever been in a situation where you meet a girl and immediately hit it off with her? A situation where everything goes so well that you even start to play with the idea that she might actually be “the one”?
But then, all of the sudden, she starts acting weird. She starts pulling away from you and you have no idea why. What's worse, nothing you do helps. In fact, the more you try, the worse it gets! Eventually, she stops talking to you completely and you know it in your gut - you've lost her.
So, what went wrong?
I’ve been in this situation more times than I can count (or want to) and let me tell you, it mostly comes down to one thing: because you don’t know how to keep a girl interested, you make mistakes that push her away.
And these mistakes (along with something even more important) are what we are going to focus on in this article…
How to Lose Her Interest… Fast
Although there could be many reasons why a girl might lose interest in you, there are basically two major mistakes guys make that will eventually come back to bite them in the ass:
- They rush.
- They invest too heavily.
So, let's take a look at them and see what you can actually do so it won't happen again.
One of the biggest mistakes many guys make when they meet a girl they like is trying to rush into a relationship with her. They want to make it "official" as fast as possible because they are afraid of losing her. Most girls, though, aren’t interested in the idea of blindly jumping into a relationship with a guy they hardly know. They prefer to take things slow, to get to know each other first. They want these things to happen naturally.
Furthermore, if a guy is in a hurry to start a relationship with a woman, she will assume he is desperate (because in most cases, he is) and lose interest in him. For her, it's a clear sign that he hasn't been with a woman for a very long time (why else has he been single for so long) and is most likely going to suffocate her with his constant need for affection once she agrees to date him. It's something that will be an instant turn-off for most women.
To avoid this mistake, all you really have to do is to stop yourself from rushing things. If you start to take a more relaxed attitude towards getting into a relationship and don't feel the need to rush it, she will actually want to give the relationship a try. Women know that a guy who shows interest but isn't in a hurry to get into a relationship with them, is worth it.
And if this didn't convince you why rushing is pointless, then you should know that there really is no guarantee that jumping head first into a relationship with her will actually make her want to stay. If you turn out to be someone she doesn’t want, there’s nothing that will keep her in a relationship with you. That's because a relationship isn't a binding commitment! If she thinks that you are the wrong man for her, she will still dump you and move on. The only difference will be that by then, it will be even more painful for you since you have already heavily invested in her.
And this brings us to the topic of investment...
Investing Too Heavily In a Girl
Another thing guys often do is to start “investing” heavily in a girl they just met. What this means is that they become obsessed with her because they think she's somehow more special than other girls. Sometimes they even add characteristics to her that she doesn’t even have. If women notice this kind of behavior in a man, it's (again) something that will turn her off instantly for the same reason they don't want guys who rush - it's extremely desperate.
While it's true that girls want to feel special, they also want to be with someone they consider as special. A guy who is desperately trying to get to know them is definitely not special! A desirable man has options, he simply does not fall for every girl he meets. Only someone who has no options is going to attach himself to the very first pretty girl that even gives him some attention. And most women know that this guy should be avoided!
For this reason, avoid getting too emotionally attached to a girl you barely even know. When you already in a committed relationship with her, then you can, and should, show her how much she means to you and how much you appreciate her. But never before that! If you manage to stay emotionally distant, even a bit indifferent, she will stay interested in you because you look like someone who has options (someone who has value). And she might even start to chase you!
How to Keep Her Interested
There's one thing you'll have to understand: the previously mentioned examples are just symptoms of a bigger underlying problem. While you can keep a woman’s interest by avoiding the above-mentioned mistakes, they aren’t going to be permanent solutions.
Remember when I mentioned that rushing into a relationship demonstrates desperation? Well, it isn’t just something you can decide to hide or turn off. If you act needy or desperate in one situation, it’s most likely that you’re going to be needy or desperate in every other situation as well - you’re a desperate person overall. It’s because you’re trying to fill a hole in your life with a woman.
The thing you have to understand is that it’s not what you do, but actually who you are. This means that you could be saying all the right things to her and handling every situation perfectly, but when a woman eventually discovers the real you, she will still lose interest.
But of course, don’t take this as a reason to just give up. There’s actually a lot you can do about your situation! In fact, trying to improve your current situation is something you should be focusing on when you have no idea why girls are always pulling away from you. You shouldn’t be asking yourself how to keep a girl interested in you but actually how to fix the underlying problems that keep pushing her away from you.
And the answer to this is: become someone she feels naturally attracted to.
You need to adopt a completely different mindset and acquire traits like confidence, competence, dominance, independence and many more. You should be happy with who you are and know that you could offer a lot to a woman. This way you will not only keep women interested in you, but also attracted.
While this article doesn’t go very deep into this topic, I would suggest you read other articles on this site or even get my new course that will teach you exactly what kind of things women respond to.
A girls interest in you basically boils down to her attraction in you. If you can't keep her attracted, you will also lose her interest. That's why turning yourself into someone who naturally attracts women is going to be the best solution. Not only will it fix this specific problem, but also help you to fix most of the problems you face in your interactions with women.
Again, if you are serious about changing the way women respond to you, you have to do something about it. And this is exactly the kind of thing my program Rules of the Alpha Male focuses on. It will turn you into someone who attracts women effortlessly and keeps them interested!