Getting dumped by a girl isn’t exactly the best feeling in the world. In fact, it’s probably among the worst.
Not only do you want her back after the break-up, but you can’t stop thinking about her and feel like you lost a part of yourself.
So, you are most likely here because you got dumped by your girlfriend and are now looking for a way to get her back.
Well, in that case, I got some good news and bad news for you.
The good news is that getting her back is definitely a possibility.
The bad news, though, is that this might be the hardest thing you’ll ever do. And even then, there are no real guarantees!
But I won’t discourage you too much.
If you want to know how to get a girl back after a break-up, you should be aware of what you can do about it.
So, let us see what can actually be done!
How to Get a Girl Back Interested in You
Now, before we move on to what you can do, here is something you should definitely avoid:
1. Don’t beg. Begging never works and just makes you look pathetic. Instead of giving you another chance, she will lose all respect for you and any affection along with it.
2. No contact. If she broke up with you, it means she needs some space and distance from you!
But if you can’t keep yourself from calling and texting her (even worse when you try to meet up with her!), she will see that you can’t even be without her.
This will make you look really desperate – something you should definitely avoid.
You must give your ex some time and space to figure things out on her own without constantly badgering her. This way she might even start to miss you!
If you keep obsessing over her, you will not be able to function normally and might do something so stupid that you are going to ruin your chances with her forever!
That’s why you need to build some distance between the two of you!
Since people tend to focus on the positive when remembering past experiences, giving her space helps to remind her why she wanted to date you.
And she can only start missing you if you aren’t around!
So, by building some distance, she might start to miss the good times with you and decide to take you back.
Additionally, it gives her time to heal and remove the negative associations that led to the break up.
If she has had enough time to reflect, you can try contacting her again!
But don’t just wait a week and then hope she welcomes you with open arms.
The time varies from person to person, but you should give her at least a month before contacting her. Who knows, she might even contact you before that to give it another try?
Until then, she shouldn’t hear anything from you!
When you get dumped by a girl you loved, someone you made big plans with, it can be hard to recover from that. This is why you have to take some time off to heal from the break up yourself.
But your healing process shouldn’t be spent sitting on your ass waiting for her to come back!
Apart from all the obvious things you should be doing to keep yourself from thinking about her (spending time with friends and hobbies), this is also an important time for you to reflect on yourself.
That’s why I’m telling you this right now:
If you got dumped, then it was probably your fault! So, if you truly want her back, you better put some effort into fixing your wrongs!
There is just no other way.
To get her back, you have to know the reason why she dumped you in the first place. If you don’t know that, you better find out!
Now, I can’t possibly know what your particular reason might have been. If I tried guessing every possible cause, this article would be a very long.
But the advice I can give you is: find the problem and fix it.
Wait? You already found it and took care of it?
Excellent! But we even then, we aren’t even close to being finished here.
You see, if you get dumped, it usually isn’t only because of one reason alone.
When a woman decides to go long-term with you, she doesn’t just abandon ship at the first sign of trouble. She tries to work it out and if this fails, she tries to accept it.
Now, when the amount of things she has to accept stacks up, she will dump you. Therefore, you are probably facing a mountain of problems instead of just one or two.
If your problems weren’t too specific, it was most likely because you lost your independence and your direction in life (if you had it to begin with). You became too complacent and let yourself go.
In your time with her, you probably gave up a lot of things for her, just so you could be with her. You probably started giving her more attention than to anyone or anything else that mattered, and this made her the center of your world.
Your life revolved around her and you started depending on her to feel good.
Now, I could be wrong on this and maybe you just have to fix one small thing to win her back. But if the previous part sounded too familiar to you, then your problem was you losing touch with your masculinity.
And to fix that, it takes much more than just getting rid of some problems.
So, if you truly want her back, you better start working towards this goal:
- If you let your appearance go, then it’s time to groom yourself, buy new clothes and start working out again to get in shape. You have to look as good, if not better, than when she first met you.
- If you gave up your passion and hobbies for her, then it’s time to get them back. You need to have a goal in life and not be someone who is so hopeless, that he has to rely on someone else to feel good about himself.
- Start educating yourself. Read books and watch stuff that helps you to grow as a man.
- Get rid of bad habits you had and replace them with something positive and inspiring.
- Do everything in your power to improve your current situation.
Remember, when she finally meets you, you have to be a better version of your previous self.
Even if it is just a slightly better version, as long as she sees that you working towards becoming a better man, she will like it.
The fact is, she should see something changed in you when she sees you again. If she still has some feelings for you and sees what progress you have made, she will want to take you back.
But you also need to be prepared for the other outcome…
Sometimes Moving On is the Only Option
Sometimes, whatever you do and no matter how much you work on yourself, she still won’t take you back. Maybe the reason was too severe. Or she found someone new already.
In this case, I’m sorry… I truly am!
But there’s nothing you can do anymore – you lost her.
When she doesn’t want you back accept it and move on. There is no point in dwelling over a girl you can not get back.
At least you can always tell yourself that you actually did everything in your power to get her back, instead of just sitting on your ass and waiting for something to happen.
Trust me, when she walks away, without even looking back… she wasn’t “the one” anyway. There are will always be more girls out there and it’s now your duty to go meet them!
From now on, just keep working on improving yourself. In fact, never stop!
Especially when you are ready to get back in the game!
But this time don’t try to better yourself because of a woman anymore… do it for yourself!
And trust me, if you keep working on yourself to become a better man, your new girlfriend will be even better than your previous one – that’s a guarantee!
If you need more help improving yourself, or want to know how to keep a girl from ever leaving you, you should take a look at this course.
Of course, you can also apply this course when you want to get your ex back. So, better take a look at it.
How to Fix You?
Like mentioned before, the only way to fix you is to admit that you have a problem in the first place.
You have to take a hard look at yourself and find your flaws. Then you need to take decisive action and do everything to get rid of them.
Without fixing your problems, they will resurface and you will lose her again. And if you already lost her but still don’t do anything about it, your future relationships will end the same way!
If you are insecure or lack a purpose in your life, you can only fix it by making positive changes to your mindset. Only by doing that, will you have a chance to get your girl back!
When you finally decide to change your life by fixing your mindset, will your girlfriend also never want to leave.