It is always interesting to see two people on a first date. You can spot them from miles away because they are both pretty nervous. And usually, they are in places you expect to meet them – like cinemas or restaurants.
However, these are just the wrong settings for a date, especially for the first one. So here are a few first date rules for men, who obviously need to know how to behave on a first date so they get a chance of seeing the second one.
What to Do on the First Date?
The first question on your mind might be: what to do on the first date with a girl? Many men think they have to take her to the movies or an expensive restaurant because that’s what a first date is all about. Isn’t that what she expects from you? Actually no! You shouldn’t be one of these predictable and boring guys. Women want excitement, so give her an experience she won’t forget that easily.
Demonstrate decisiveness by choosing the time and place where to meet, where to go and what to do. Women absolutely love this. They want a man who calls the shots so she can be there just to enjoy the ride. Women want a guy who makes important decisions by himself and doesn’t feel the need to ask others for approval. Don’t ask her what she wants to do, just surprise her and you will see that most of the times she will agree with your decision happily. Even if she doesn’t, she will let you know. So, have a backup plan ready.
Don’t take the first date as a date per se. Make it an opportunity for her to see you who you really are – to meet the real you. Like I said, don’t go to restaurants or the movies. Go to places where you always go, do things you always do. This way she gets a glimpse into your world. Or if you really have nowhere to go, just ask her out for a cup of coffee (or whatever you drink) or go for a walk. But remember to make it memorable by making her laugh and keeping it interesting.
It is most likely that you both will be quite nervous at the beginning. So by keeping the date just a fun and light interaction, you will have more success of her liking the date (and you). Also, by bringing her to places you visit regularly, you feel much more comfortable and she will be more comfortable as well.
In fact, the first date should be fun and casual. Don’t even try to create a romantic atmosphere here. The more fun she has, the better the date will go. There is very little room for romance on the first date because you don’t know her that well. So forget about wearing a tux or bringing a bunch of flowers to make it romantic. Keep it casual, keep it entertaining and she will love it.
When you go somewhere with her, do something cheap. You shouldn’t sacrifice half of your salary just to give her a good time. You don’t need a lot of money to impress a woman. Only gold-diggers expect that you spend a lot of money on the first date. Remember – a real woman wants to meet you, not your wallet.
There is one thing, however, you have to accept. Always bear in mind that no matter how much you like a girl, never try to force something that isn’t there. If she gives you strange vibes and you can feel it in your gut that she isn’t that into you, accept it and move on. There are many women out there, who would be happy to meet you. So don’t try to force things and make it work with the one you can’t. If she doesn’t like you, just move on.
Now, when you are finally at the end of a date and it’s time to part ways, always go for the kiss. If she likes you, she will kiss you back. If not, she will think of some half-assed excuse and run. Even if you can see that she likes you but is hesitating to kiss you back, shrug it off and don’t try to apologize for your behavior. You are a man with clear intentions and there is no shame in this. However, when she doesn’t want to kiss you back, it is for you to decide how to proceed from here.
So, these were some of the first date rules for men. I hope you learned something about how to behave on a first date. Just keep in mind to have fun on your first date and even if it doesn’t work out, don’t get discouraged by it.
If you want to improve your chances of having success on your dates and learn even more about how to become the man who attracts women, you have the get the Girlfriend Activation System. It’s a complete guide that is designed to take you step-by-step through all necessary stages in dating (from meeting her to making her your loyal girlfriend) so you know exactly what you are doing. It will transform you into a man whom she considers a long-term investment.