How to Get a Girl Back After a Break Up

A guy trying to smooth over things with girlfriend

You are most likely here because you got dumped by your girlfriend and are now looking for a way to get her back. Well, in that case, I got some good news and bad news for you.

The good news is that getting her back is definitely a possibility. However,  the bad news is that this might be the hardest thing you'll ever do. And even then, there are no real guarantees.

But I won't discourage you too much. If you want to know how to get a girl back after a break-up, you should be aware of what you can do about it. Now, before we move on to what you can do, here is something you should definitely avoid:

  1. Don't beg. Begging never works and just makes you look pathetic. Instead of giving you another chance, she will lose all respect for you and any affection along with it.
  2. No contact. If she broke up with you, it means she needs some space and distance from you. But if you can't keep yourself from calling and texting her (even worse when you try to meet up with her!), she will see that you can't even be without her. This will make you look really desperate – something you should definitely avoid.

Now since we got the most important "do not"-s out of the way, let us see what can actually be done.


How to Get a Girl Back Interested in You

You must give your ex some time and space to figure things out on her own without constantly badgering her. This way she might even start to miss you. Since people tend to focus on the positive when remembering past experiences, giving her space helps to remind her why she wanted to date you. Additionally, it gives her time to heal and remove the negative associations that led to the break up.

If she has had enough time to reflect, you can try contacting her again. But don't just wait a week and then hope she welcomes you with open arms. The time varies from person to person, but you should give her at least a month before contacting her. Who knows, she might even contact you before that to give it another try. Until then, she shouldn't hear anything from you.

When you get dumped by a girl you loved, someone you made big plans with, it can be hard to recover from that. This is why you have to take some time off to heal from the break up yourself. But your healing process shouldn't be spent sitting on your ass waiting for her to come back. Apart from all the obvious things you should be doing to keep yourself from thinking about her (spending time with friends and hobbies), this is also an important time for you to reflect on yourself.

If you want to get a girl back, you first have to figure out the reason why she left you. If it's not for obvious reasons, then you can assume that it was because of your mindset. Because of this, you might even have a harder time to admit why she left - you failed in her eyes.

Another thing you have to accept is the fact that you won't win her back by staying as you are right now. This means that you need to change. Even if she decided to take you back, she would soon leave you again because you're still the same.

The main reason why guys get dumped by their girlfriends is because they lack a strong sense of self. They are insecure, have no real direction in life and rely too much on their girlfriend for internal fulfillment. If you are unsure why your relationship failed with your girl, then this was most likely it.


How to Fix You?

Like mentioned before, the only way to fix you is to admit that you have a problem in the first place.  You have to take a hard look at yourself and find your flaws. Then you need to take decisive action and do everything to get rid of them. Without fixing your problems, they will resurface and you will lose her again. Even worse, if you don't do anything about it, your future relationships will end the same way.

If you are insecure or lack a purpose in your life, you can only fix it by making positive changes to your mindset. Only by doing that, will you have a chance to get your girl back. You should also start learning about how a healthy relationship works and what part you play in it.

When you finally decide to change your life by fixing your mindset, will your girlfriend also never want to leave.

What are you looking for?