For some guys, approaching a girl is probably one of the hardest challenges ever.
Only the mere thought of approaching her and coming across as some perv, can make some freeze on the spot. And who can blame them, woman don’t really respond well to a creepy guy!
But here’s the thing:
It’s mostly in your head, because once you get used to approaching, it isn’t nearly as terrible as you imagine!
But since you are here, you obviously struggle with it. That’s why in this article will help you to rid yourself of the idea that women wouldn’t like you.
This way you’ll know what to do without coming across as a creep become more used to approaching.
So let’s check them out!
5 Tips on Approaching Women Without Being Creepy
Since you assume that you’ll come across as a creeper whenever you get near to a woman, here are 5 tips to help you out.
These can help you to think a bit differently (and give you some additional advice) when approaching women.
1. It’s only you. The one thing about approaching girls is that it’s totally acceptable to do it. In fact, women expect it from you.
That’s why you should stop worrying about it. And if you actually stop worrying about it, you will notice that most of the time, you are the only one who thinks it’s weird.
Most (read: normal) women appreciate a guy approaching them and never look it as something that could be even considered as creepy.
2. Relax. Do you know what will happen if you stop assuming that you are creeping girls out? You will relax! You will start to feel more comfortable in your own body and women will notice that as well.
In turn, no one is going to assume you’re a creep!
So instead of some shaking “freak” who can’t even form normal sentences in presence of women, they see a guy who is confident.
If you start to feel at ease, women start to reward you for it! The only time you were called a creeper, was probably when you actually felt this way and let it show.
Of course, “just relax” is easier said than done. But the more you meet women, the easier it gets. The more you start to relax.
Your first encounters will almost always feel a bit off. But once you get over them, it becomes easier… relaxing becomes easier!
3. It’s not always about you! Did you know, that women have lives too?
I know, shocking!
Okay, okay, sarcasm aside, but what I’m trying to say is that just like you, they will have good and bad days.
So do not expect that their default state is happy… until they meet you!
You know exactly how bad the really bad days can be. So if you approach a girl and she is a total bitch to you, maybe, just maybe, she is having a bad day as well.
Could be that when you approach her on a good day, she will be the most welcoming person ever. But since you met her on a terrible day, she’s nasty.
So don’t take it personally when she says something nasty to you! It still doesn’t make you a creep!
As a matter of fact…
4. Never take it personally. This is probably the biggest problem why guys consider themselves as creepy, when they approach girls.
They take the rejection they got from one girl as a personal insult and now assume that they actually are the biggest creeps ever. But this is not who they are.
Even if you approached ten girls in a row and 9 of them called you creepy, you should not identify with it. If you have positive intentions, you are not a creep. Could be that your social skills just suck…
5. Your social skills suck. This is probably the most unlikely case, but it’s still a possibility. If you have trouble keeping a conversation going with anybody, then you should start working on fixing it.
If you don’t know how to do it, then you have two options: going out and approaching everything until you start to see improvements in your skills, or let someone else teach you.
Assuming you don’t want to try the first approach, you need to start learning from someone. And let’s be honest here, it’s a faster approach.
This is also where I can suggest something to you, that might help. Without going too much into details, its’ called Say Hello and it will teach you how to talk to women without coming across as a creep.
Okay, but let’s assume you want to start improving your social skills right now! So when you approach, no girl will ever assume that your some creep!
Well, then the next part is going to help you to do it the right way!
How to Improve Your Skills
This is the part of the article where we switch gears and see what you can actually do about your situation.
Also, a fair warning:
The very first hurdle you have to overcome is not going to be easy.
But if you truly want to grow, it’s something you’ll have to do. So what is it?
Here’s the deal: you have to start approaching girls! A lot of girls!
And while you can find women basically anywhere, there’s really only one place where your going to run into women every step and that’s a night club!
Yes, I know… A lot of guys have probably told you that the nightclub is the worst place to find a good woman. But it’s actually the perfect place to start because it will help you to learn faster.
The guys who have been telling you that clubs are bad, are wrong! You can still find many great gals there!
The only reason why a lot of guys dismiss them is because they suck at approaching girls at clubs!
Instead of doing anything worthwhile, they just stand around, waiting passively, hoping for a girl to initiate.
Or when they put some effort into meeting someone new, they wait for some signal that it’s safe to do so.
But these things don’t work in a club!
You on the other hand, have to be different! You have to become the guy who has the balls to act!
Because this is how you get over your fears of being called a creep.
This is how you improve your social skills!
By taking action!
But there’s also another thing you have to consider…
Since you’re going to approach a lot of girls, you will also get rejected… a lot!
Sorry, but there’s just no way around it.
But as you already learned, rather than take rejection as a personal attack on your character, get used to it and then go approach some more girls!
This is really what makes the guys who “get it” different from the rest – they don’t give up. So, the very first thing, before you even do the approach, is to get used to the feeling of getting rejected.
While you might think that you can prepare for this from the comfort of your home, it’s something that needs to be experienced first-hand.
Now, when you do the initial approach, knowing what to do is really a great advantage to have.
Most guys in the club stumble up to a girl (because you can’t sit in the corner forever) and come up either with something lame: a weak compliment or an offer to buy her a drink.
And she sees right through them – these men aren’t there to make her feel good, they just want to get something from her!
Women get approached all the time at clubs and are really good at reading your intentions. So if your intentions suck, you will go home alone!
That’s why you should never approach a girl with the intention of getting something from her. You should actually be the one who is there to give!
But how to you do that?
Well, the very first thing you have to remember when you approach is to always have a smile on your face! It makes you look like a guy who isn’t talking to her out of desperation but and is having a fun time.
Also, smiling makes you look sincere and sociable. It shows her that you confident and not intimidated by her beauty.
If you have a some sort of line memorized (if not, “hi, I’m…” will do just fine) on what to say to her and really want to use it, then never deliver it in the hopes of getting her to react to it.
Just say it, don’t wait for a reaction and start the actual conversation!
This is probably where most guys go wrong in in their approaches. They use some “clever” line and then wait for her to “approve” of it.
But like I already mentioned, this will just look like they are there to get something (a positive response).
So if you approach a girl, say whatever you want and keep talking. Never wait for her to react to it.
And if you’re joking around, make jokes you find genuinely funny and not what you think she might like.
If she sees that you are the kind of guy who is actually fun and not trying to get on her good side, she’s going to like you more.
And if it makes it any easier for you, talk to her as you would talk to a really good friend.
Now, if you really struggle keeping a conversation alive, then I’m going to suggest Say Hello again. It’s going to help you with it.
But let me say this:
As long as you can stay cool in the moment, you will have no problem approaching and talking to girls at a club.
Most people go to a club to have fun, so if you are the most fun person there, you will have no problems getting girls attracted to you.
Now you should have at least a basic ideal how to approach a girl without being a creep.
The best advice I can give you here is just not to worry about what girls think of you when you approach them. After a couple of days, they won’t even remember it.
Also, keep in mind: never to approach a girl at the club with the intention of getting something from her! Always be ready to give more than you take and women will want to be with you!
So, stop worrying, stay calm and if you think your social skills need some polishing, check out the course!