Learn How to Subconsciously Attract Women

A woman looking over her shoulderProbably most guys who want to learn how to subconsciously attract women think that this will be an easy task that can be learned pretty quickly. I mean, how hard can it be? The only thing you need to do is to watch what successful men do and then duplicate it. However, when some guys finally try to do that and discover that it’s not as easy as it looks, they give up and swiftly move to the next “quick fix.”

The problem with this approach is that when you are trying to subconsciously attract women, you are already doing it wrong. Why? Because you are trying! First, we have to eliminate the word “trying” because if you try to do something, you are doing it consciously and not subconsciously.

If you want to be the guy who attracts women subconsciously, there can’t be a “Now I’m subconsciously attracting this woman”, you have to adopt a certain way of thinking first that will eventually lead you to your goal. But let’s take a closer look at this.


The Way Subconscious Attraction Works

There’s a reason why I brought this whole “trying” part up in the first place. I want you to know that there will be men (hey, maybe even you!), who get into situations where they interact with women and when they notice that this stuff is not working, try to force it. This means – going into their heads and thinking about the specific steps to take on how to subconsciously attract women to make it work. This, however, cancels out the whole subconscious part of attraction and won’t help them in the slightest.

When you are in an environment surrounded by women and constantly thinking that you need to start acting in certain ways so you can attract women, you are missing the point of attraction.

To get to the point of subconsciously attracting women, you have to take the needed action not in the moment (when you try to attract a woman) but before you are in it. This means: you have to do everything beforehand so that your interactions are on “autopilot” (you do things subconsciously) and not forced (you going into your head trying to figure out what to do next).

Okay, enough of the foreplay. Let’s learn how to subconsciously attract women!

Pretty girl with red lipstickFor some guys subconsciously attracting women is easy. The pick-up community calls them naturals because they have incredible success without knowing what the hell they are doing. They are masters in subconscious attraction. To achieve their level (and go even beyond) we have to learn and adopt their behaviorism and mindset.

To get to the point of subconsciously attracting women, to the level of a natural, you have to work on yourself (ha, you thought this would be easy, didn’t you?). Like I have already mentioned in several posts, it takes massive amount of work to improve yourself. Otherwise, you will never, ever, ever, ever, eveeeer achieve the stage of subconscious attraction!


How to Attract Women Like a Natural

For a beginner, many things need to improve before he can even think about subconsciously attracting girls. Naming all of them here and teaching how you how to improve them goes beyond the scope of this article, but you can get this great book that will help you to do it. But in this article, let me just to give you a general idea what needs to be done:

Your attitude. Having a positive attitude is a vital quality to have. Your attitude is what decide if you can attract women at all. The right attitude for attraction should be total indifference. No, not about the woman, but about the situations you will be in. This means that you can’t think about things that might happen to you in the interactions: what to do in any given situation, how to respond to women, how a woman might respond to you or if you get the girl at all. The point here is that you shouldn’t really care how all your approaches and interactions go.

Your mindset. You have an unshakable mindset when no one, with the only exception of yourself, can define who you are as a person. This also means your opinion of yourself should be so strong, that even the harshest rejection from a beautiful woman can’t damage it. You have to know for a fact (not believe) that any woman would be lucky to have you. Such mindset can’t be faked. And when you haven’t really internalized it, subconsciously attracting women is almost impossible.

Your body language. I touched on this in my previous post but let me expand a little bit on this topic. Your body language should be in alignment with your words and actions. It should come as second nature to you. Yes, you could force this and probably have success with it too, but this won’t make it a subconscious action, wouldn’t it?

You really need to have this internalized. A woman should take just one look at you and immediately think you are different from all the other guys. But like I said in my previous post, if you can stay confident and congruent, your body language most of the times fixes itself – you will look more confident when you are confident.

Constant repetition. If you want to make something permanent – the things you do come naturally to you (subconsciously) – you have to repeat them. You can’t just wake up one morning and decide that you have a new skill. Your subconscious doesn’t work like that! It’s like learning to ride a bike. First, it’s hard, and you fall on your face most of the time. But after a while you get a feel for it and it becomes second nature to you. But you have to repeat, repeat, repeat!


To Summarize

I’m sure some of you are a little disappointed that I didn’t give you specific steps you could follow to attract women subconsciously. But to tell you the truth, they don’t really exist. Like I mentioned earlier, this process will take time and effort to internalize and it can’t be learned quickly. To learn how to attract women subconsciously, you have to learn how to do it consciously first and not the other way around.

Subconscious attraction is not something you do but something you “are”. It can not be faked or forced and there is no fake it till you make it period. A guy, who is serious about learning how to attract women, should first work on his inner game, so the subconscious part comes naturally to him (like it should).

There is a fantastic book from Mark Manson that deals with improving your inner game and making you an attractive guy. It can give you a much better understanding of this topic. It’s called Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and if you check it out, I’m sure I can convince you why you need it.



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  1. Carl August 26, 2018 at 12:25 pm - Reply

    It’s all Vanity and wisdom
    Thanks though for the reminders

  2. Anonymous August 15, 2018 at 6:54 pm - Reply

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  3. Chris November 4, 2017 at 7:47 am - Reply

    This doesn’t work for everyone, and when you come back here after realizing that, he will say it’s your fault.

    • John November 4, 2017 at 11:18 am

      In reply to Chris: So tell me, why doesn’t it work for everyone?

      It’s funny that instead of taking some responsibility and admitting that you didn’t actually try or only made a half-assed attempt, you just push the blame away from yourself. If you’re expecting this to be a cakewalk, of course it won’t work. This can take years for some guys, so don’t start with bullshit like “…when you come back here after realizing that, he will say it’s your fault.” So yes, it’s on you! And seriously, if you remember this article clearly enough to come back here after your “big realization” just to tell me it didn’t work, you’re essentially admitting that you gave up immediately.

  4. Anonymous April 26, 2017 at 12:55 am - Reply

    love it , nice advise to any guy at there

    • John April 26, 2017 at 2:07 am

      In reply to Anonymous: Thanks!

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    This article was bullshit it doesn’t help in the slightest!

    • John September 28, 2016 at 9:58 pm

      In reply to Zack: Well, too bad… If you learned nothing from it, then the problem isn’t the article, it’s you!

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    • John September 4, 2016 at 10:35 pm

      In reply to Sunday: Thanks!

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