Probably most guys who want to learn how to subconsciously attract women think that this will be an easy task that can be learned pretty quickly.
I mean, how hard can it be?
The only thing you need to do is to watch what successful men do and then duplicate it!
However, when some guys finally try to do that and discover that it’s not as easy as it looks, they give up and swiftly move to the next “quick fix.”
The problem with this approach is that when you are trying to subconsciously attract women, you are already doing it wrong.
Because you are trying!
First, we have to eliminate the word “trying” because if you try to do something, you are doing it consciously and not subconsciously.
If you want to be the guy who attracts women subconsciously, there can’t be a “Now I’m subconsciously attracting this woman”, you have to adopt a certain way of thinking first that will eventually lead you to your goal.
But let’s take a closer look at this.
The Way Subconscious Attraction Works
There’s a reason why I brought this whole “trying” part up in the first place.
I want you to know that there will be men (hey, maybe even you!), who get into situations where they interact with women and when they notice that this stuff is not working, try to force it.
This means – going into their heads and thinking about the specific steps to take on how to subconsciously attract women to make it work.
This, however, cancels out the whole subconscious part of attraction and won’t help them in the slightest.
When you are in an environment surrounded by women and constantly thinking that you need to start acting in certain ways so you can attract women, you are missing the point of attraction.
To get to the point of subconsciously attracting women, you have to take the needed action not in the moment (when you try to attract a woman) but before you are in it!
This means: you have to do everything beforehand so that your interactions are on “autopilot” (you do things subconsciously) and not forced (you going into your head trying to figure out what to do next).
Okay, enough of the foreplay.
Let’s learn how to subconsciously attract women!
For some guys subconsciously attracting women is easy.
The pick-up community calls them naturals because they have incredible success without knowing what the hell they are doing. They are masters in subconscious attraction.
To achieve their level (and go even beyond) we have to learn and adopt their behaviorism and mindset.
To get to the point of subconsciously attracting women, to the level of a natural, you have to work on yourself (ha, you thought this would be easy, didn’t you?).
Like I have already mentioned in several articles, it takes massive amount of work to improve yourself.
Otherwise, you will never, ever, ever, eveeeer achieve the stage of subconscious attraction!
How to Attract Women Like a Natural
For a beginner, many things need to improve before he can even think about subconsciously attracting girls
Naming all of them here and teaching how you how to improve them goes beyond the scope of this article, however, you can get my course that will help you to do it.
But in this article, let me just to give you a general idea what needs to be done:
Your attitude. Having a positive attitude is a vital quality to have. Your attitude is what decides if you can attract women at all.
The right attitude for attraction should be total indifference. No, not about the woman, but about the situations you will be in.
This means that you can’t think about things that might happen to you in the interactions: what to do in any given situation, how to respond to women, how a woman might respond to you or if you get the girl at all.
The point here is that you shouldn’t really care how all your approaches and interactions go.
Your mindset. You have an unshakable mindset when no one, with the only exception of yourself, can define who you are as a person.
This also means your opinion of yourself should be so strong, that even the harshest rejection from a beautiful woman can’t damage it.
You have to know for a fact (not believe) that any woman would be lucky to have you. Such mindset can’t be faked. And when you haven’t really internalized it, subconsciously attracting women is almost impossible.
Your body language. I touched on this in my previous article but let me expand a little bit on this topic.
Your body language should be in alignment with your words and actions. It should come as second nature to you.
Yes, you could force this and probably have success with it too, but this won’t make it a subconscious action, wouldn’t it?
You really need to have this internalized!
A woman should take just one look at you and immediately think you are different from all the other guys.
But like I said in my previous post: if you can stay confident and congruent, your body language most of the times fixes itself – you will look more confident when you are confident.
Constant repetition. If you want to make something permanent – the things you do come naturally to you (subconsciously) – you have to repeat them.
You can’t just wake up one morning and decide that you have a new skill. Your subconscious doesn’t work like that!
It’s like learning to ride a bike. First, it’s hard, and you fall on your face most of the time. But after a while, you get a feel for it and it becomes second nature to you.
But you have to repeat, repeat, repeat!
I’m sure some of you are a little disappointed that I didn’t give you specific steps you could follow to attract women subconsciously.
But to tell you the truth, they don’t really exist!
Like I mentioned earlier, this process will take time and effort to internalize and it can’t be learned quickly. To learn how to attract women subconsciously, you have to learn how to do it consciously first and not the other way around.
Subconscious attraction is not something you do but something you “are”.
It can not be faked or forced and there is no fake it till you make it period!
A guy, who is serious about learning how to attract women, should first work on his inner game, so the subconscious part comes naturally to him (like it should).
If you are really serious about becoming someone who attracts women subconsciously, then you should take a look at Rules of the Alpha Male! It deals with improving your inner game and making you an attractive guy.
So check it out, I’m sure I can convince you why you need it.
3 Changes You Need to Make to Attract Women
Some men assume that you can only attract women when you pass certain requirements: you either have to be blessed with the right genes (tall and handsome) or be financially secure.
That’s also the reason why some still use their looks as an excuse for not approaching women or try to buy a girl’s affection with material possessions.
But in reality, the mentioned factors play only a trivial role in attraction!
Any guy who still believes that looks and money are a necessity, needs to change three things in his life to attract the kind of women he wants.
But enough of the foreplay, let’s take a closer look at these three changes and how they will affect success with women.
How to Attract Women
Step 1: Change Your Attitude
A guy who has no success with women makes a lot of excuses in his life.
He has an excuse for everything – why he’s still stuck at the same boring job, why no one respects him and why women don’t want to be with him.
He is so used to playing the victim that he identifies with it.
The problem with men like him is that they are unable to see their own potential.
Instead, they have learned to become helpless and blame the world around them. But as much as these guys want to deny the truth, it’s is still their own fault for being in this situation.
Since it’s much easier to make excuses than to face the fact that it is you who needs to change, they continue living in denial.
To make a change, you have to take a real hard look at yourself and own the reasons why your job sucks, why you get no respect and why women hardly pay any attention to you.
You have to admit to yourself that you will never amount to anything if you keep blaming the world around you for your shortcomings.
Therefore, give up this sad sob story how unfair life is and change your attitude. Instead of thinking about who’s to blame when you fail, start thinking about what can you do that brings you closer to your goals.
No matter what obstacles life throws at you, you have to overcome them!
Don’t give up after an half-assed attempt and pat yourself on the back because you did your best. Take the words “I can’t” out of your vocabulary and fight till the bitter end!
Only then can you honestly say that you tried everything when you failed.
Step 2: Change Your Mind about Yourself
The reason why many men fail at attracting women isn’t because they aren’t handsome or rich enough, it’s because they don’t believe in themselves!
If you would go up to one of them in a club and tell him to approach the girl he has been eyeing the whole night, he would immediately give you a bunch of reasons why he couldn’t/wouldn’t do it.
Even if you get through to him and manage to convince him that he has nothing to lose, he would still refuse to budge because he doesn’t trust in himself.
This kind of limiting belief in one’s abilities also leads to a lot of self-doubt and insecurities. These will also immensely affect many aspects of your life, even extend to your love life.
You will always see beautiful women as a scarcity and even if you happen to land in a relationship with one, drive her away because you don’t value yourself.
If you let yourself get dragged down by limiting beliefs, eventually you will just give up on yourself.
You will accept your situation and tune yourself out from all the people who tell you that it’s not too late to make a change.
You will accept mediocrity as the norm and never try to rise above it.
For this reason, you need to make fundamental changes to your mindset!
Stop listening to the voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s not possible to change!
Start reading books that challenge your world views.
Overcome your fears by doing things you have never done before.
Challenge yourself every day by pushing yourself further and further from your comfort zone.
If you start to trust in yourself, you will truly discover what you are capable of. Even when that’s not much in the beginning, believing in your capacities and pushing through all the obstacles will eventually get you to your goals.
Step 3: Change Your Level of Activity
Chances are that the only reason why you aren’t seeing any success yet, is because you aren’t doing enough.
No matter how strong your mindset and attitude might be, if you stay passive, you will never become the guy you want to be and never date the girls you dreamed of!
Don’t become one of the people who passively waits for something to happen before he can take action.
You have to take positive action towards your goals every day. This means leaving your house and going socializing with people!
Make new connections and talk to girls you usually don’t. This will help you to overcome social anxiety and make you comfortable around people.
You need to feel rejection and numb yourself to the pain. This way you start to care less of the outcome and shift your focus towards the process.
Eventually, with enough persistence, you will reach your goal.
If you move yourself out of your comfort zone, with no plans of giving up, and while learning from your past mistakes, it’s not possible for you to keep failing.
Stay disciplined and do not let the ups and downs affect you.
Sure, cherish the good things, but don’t start to expect them because eventually, you will encounter bad times. You have to take it as it is: just part of the process.
Make these three changes and with enough practice and discipline, you will learn how to attract women.
Now, get off your ass and start taking positive action in your life!
Don’t just expect good things to fall into your lap, work for them!
And finally, stop making excuses and start making plans!