Whenever you are texting a girl you like, it's always a good idea to connect with her in some way. That's why asking meaningful questions is an excellent way to build rapport. It's also an excellent way to keep the text exchange going and make it fun. So, asking questions is something you should do. But then there's also something you absolutely have to ask her, and if you fail to do so, the conversation you had will count for nothing and eventually die down.
Now, I know how overly dramatic the last sentence sounds, but it's the truth. Unless you ask her one specific question, there really is no point in continuing the conversation (unless you are only looking for a friendship). But before we get to that, and the other great questions to ask a girl over text, there are a couple of things you should consider. So be sure to read about them instead of jumping right to the list of questions below.
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The One Thing You Should Avoid
There's one thing you should avoid if you don't want to blow your chances with a woman. Whenever you are texting her, avoid falling into the "interview mode" where you ask her a bunch of random questions one after the other. This is especially important when you start asking the questions listed at the end of the article. While you might think that you are getting somewhere because she is answering them, they bring nothing to the conversation, unless you actually do something with the answers.
What really helps you to connect with her is asking questions that come from a place of genuine curiosity - you should actually want to know these things about her. Ask questions that give you an idea what kind of person you are dealing with (the questions at the end are intended for this specific purpose). If you aren't interested in her answers and don't expand on them, you will get nowhere with her. There really is no point in asking questions just for the sake of continuing the conversation.
Since we got this out of the way, let's take a look at the most important question you should ask a girl.
The Most Important Question to Ask a Girl
The most important question is something too many guys don't ask. They dance around the issue but never get to it. But the truth is that the only reason why you should be texting a woman is to get her to meet up with you. If you're doing it for some other reason, you should stop. No matter how much you want it, you can't get to know someone over a text message – you have to ask her out and get to know her this way.
While this all might seem very obvious, too many guys still never follow through in asking a girl out. They keep stalling, hoping for the right opportunity, the perfect moment. But at the same time, she keeps wondering why they aren't asking her out until she finally assumes that they aren't interested and moves on. That's why asking a girl out should be your priority while texting her!
Also, you should know that this question shouldn't actually be presented as a question at all. When you are asking a girl out, it should come off as a statement, like "hey, I going to this cool place today, you should join me" or just "we should go out, how does Wednesday sound?" No matter how you say it, you need to demonstrate decisiveness and confidence. Instead of giving her a chance to either accept or refuse your invitation, you are giving her options when and where she is going to meet up with you.
Now, you might be saying that this is too forward and you are going to scare her away like this. But it's the way women want you to ask them out. And you are, in fact, still asking because you aren't forcing them to come; they can refuse anytime they want. But it's this kind of attitude that will make you look like a confident guy.
And if you're still in doubt, then think about it this way: a confident man assumes a girl will want to go out with him (even if she actually doesn't) and that's why he will never ask in a supplicating way like "would you go out with me?" This confident behavior is also very attractive for a girl because he expresses himself in a way he wants and not how he thinks she might like it. Oh, and if you didn't know, women love confident guys, that's why telling her and not asking (for her permission) is what will help you.
Also, another reason why asking her out in this way is a good idea is because it removes a lot of uncomfortable tension. It makes it seem like something you just mention in passing and won't make a big deal out of it. Because it really isn't. She also still knows that you are asking her out. Too many guys try to build up to this question as something like "all or nothing" because they know that if she refuses, "it's all over." But if you ask her like it's not a big deal, it will show her that you're a guy who isn't desperately trying to meet up with her, and even if she refuses, you can still ask her a second (or third) time.
Great Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text
This is the reason why you are here. And as promised, here are some questions you could ask a girl to learn something about her and get her invested in the conversation:
- What are you passionate about? A very powerful question. Follow it up by actually talking about the subject(s) she mentions and name your own. This is also something you can continue when you finally meet up with her.
- If you could be any animal, what would you be? And why? Just something fun that lets you know what kind of person she is.
- What's your biggest regret in life? This is again a very good topic you two could talk about (again, name your own).
- How does your perfect day look like? Interesting, fun way to build rapport if you mention yours. Great way to find commonalities.
- If you could change something about yourself, what would it be? If she brings up something about her looks, then don't go crazy with complimenting her (how pretty you actually think she is), it will only decrease your value.
- What is your goal in life? Again, something you both can share and connect deeply.
- What do you like your life to look like in five years? Great question to learn more about her future plans and what kind of person she is.
- Who has been your biggest influence in life? If she brings up a political or spiritual figure, avoid discussing this, unless you agree with her 100%.
- If you could travel the World, where would you go? Ideal for sharing travel stories, or just places you want to see. Creates a sense of adventure.
- What's the worst thing about dating? This should be really obvious.
- Are you a troublemaker/bad girl? Perfect for bringing out her wild side.
Want More Texting Advice? Then Read On…
Like I already mentioned before, your main goal in texting should be to meet up with the girl. Unless you really have no other way of communicating with her, you should keep your texting relatively short. So, if you need to learn more about texting and how to get a girl on a date with you, I would recommend two awesome texting courses to choose from.
The first one is called Text That Girl. It will teach you the most important things you should know when you text a girl, show you how to add fun and excitement to your texts and give you tips on how to get her on a date with you. Of course, if your goal is to create a deep and meaningful connection with a girl over your text messages, then How2TxtHer might be better suited for you. It can be immensely helpful if you're struggling to create familiarity with a woman.