Coming up with the perfect first text message to a girl can be a real challenge sometimes. If you mess it up, you might not get a second chance. Even if you send her a follow-up text, you will just make your situation worse with every following message, especially if you have no idea what you are doing.
That’s why the first message is often the most important one. If she responds to it, the interaction with her won’t usually end there. But what exactly should you be texting a girl for the first time? What do you write her? How do you make your first text message enticing enough, so you definitely get a response?
What Should You Text Her to Get a Response?
There are a couple of things you should keep in mind before you text a girl for the first time. Probably the most important one is to realize where you stand with her. If you are absolutely sure that she is into you, you can take a bit more casual approach in your first text message. But adding humor to the mix will definitely only improve your chances.
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Now, if you just met her and got her number without getting to know her that well, your first message has to be funny and interesting. It should get her reacting to it in some way. She also has to realize from your text that you are someone whom she would want to respond to. It’s also good if she instantly remembers who you are and how she met you. You can also help her along by starting the message with something you both experienced while meeting her – some inside joke you had with her, or just something that caught your attention while talking to her. Hell, you can even give her a nickname and start with that, if she did or said something that was out of the ordinary.
So, if you approached her and she first gave you a cold or angry look and you brought it up in your conversation with her, you can start with something like this:
Hey player! Still a bit shaken up by the look you gave me when I approached you… So, what’s up?
In the case that your interaction with her was too short and she might not even remember you at all (because girls can give their number to a lot of guys), you have to bring your A-game. This means that your message should be so funny and awesome to her, that she can’t resist responding. But more importantly, you have to make yourself stand out from all other guys who are texting her!
The golden rule of sending text messages to a girl you like is to keep it short and sweet. Never send a woman a wall of text as the very first message. It will just leave a desperate impression of a guy who tries too hard. That’s why all of your texts should be a couple of sentences max. and get straight to the point.
Let’s assume now that you are sending a message to a girl you hardly know. For this reason, you should avoid all the predictable, boring messages guys normally bombard her with. But how do you make yourself stand out?
The key is to add humor with a bit of randomness into your first message. You can start with a totally normal message and then turn it into something really random and funny. You don’t even have to come up with an elaborate joke, just describe your day (or make it up) and add something unexpected and funny into the mix:
I was helping this old lady cross the street today and as a thanks, she told me what a handsome young man I am and gave me her number. Looks like you got competition! How’s your day?
Make your first message fun and memorable and unless she has no sense of humor at all, you will get a response.
Taking Texting to the Next Level
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