Five Simple Rules for Texting a Girl

A woman texingIt's not a secret that most guys have a hard time figuring out what to text a girl they like. Some don't even know the very basics of texting a woman. They just send her message after message hoping for the best. Often though, they mess something up that could have been easily avoided simply because they have no idea what they're doing.

That's why this article will give you 5 important rules to follow whenever you are texting a girl you like.


 5 Rules for Texting a Girl

1. Avoid appearing needy and desperate. Probably the most important rule to remember when you're texting a girl is not to appear needy. If you appear too needy or desperate over your text messages, don't be surprised when she suddenly stops responding to you (this rule applies even when you meet her face to face!).

To avoid looking too desperate, stop texting her too much too often. If she doesn't respond to your message immediately, don't panic and start bombarding her with follow-up messages. Sometimes girls can take a long time to get back to you, so you're only shooting yourself in the foot when sending her another message just because she hasn't responded yet and you can't stay patient.

Also, try to keep your messages short and sweet. She isn't really interested in reading long essays. Even if you have a lot to say, sending her ridiculous long messages will only look like you're too eager to "make it work" with her. When you want to connect with her on a deeper level, do it when you meet up with her!

Another thing you should avoid, that too many guys still do, is to go crazy with complimenting and telling her all about how special she is. While this is a nice gesture, it's not really helping you and only makes you come across as very desperate and needy. Therefore, avoid it.

2. Keep it fun. While this rule seems pretty obvious, it's embarrassing how many guys still break it. Instead of making the interaction fun with her, they try to start a meaningful discussion. But that's not what texting is for! Your main goal isn't to get to know her over text. Sure, you might learn a thing or two about her, but texting should still lead to one certain outcome – to meet up with her. Therefore, make it as fun as possible, so she will want to meet up with you!

You don't even have to write some overly convoluted or "clever" messages. Just joke around and, if possible, banter with her. Your text messages should have a lighthearted adventurous tone, keep the deep conversations to when you eventually meet up with her. Bringing a playful tone into the text exchange not only makes the interaction fun for her but actually helps with the first rule: if you can make lighthearted jokes about her (tease her), you won't come across as needy. Keep your conversation with her fun and uplifting, and she will want to keep talking to you!

3. Start strong. When we are on the topic of fun, remember to start your interaction with her the same way! The biggest sin you can commit when texting someone is to start with something mundane and boring like "what's up?" or just "hey." While this it is a convenient way to start, it doesn't really give her any reason to respond. IF she responds to it, she will still count on you to lead this interaction somewhere.

Start with something that leaves an impact. If you have already built some rapport with her before sending the very first text, then try to use that in your opening message. Even better, if you already had some inside jokes or some funny encounters, use them to initiate contact. If nothing from your previous interaction with her comes to mind, try something that could get an emotional response.

Your goal here isn't to get just a response from her, but to actually make her want to respond. And the best way to do this is to get her to emotionally invest in it. If you want to learn how to do this, then How2TxtHer does an excellent job in explaining it (and helps with the fun part too!).

4. Remember the end goal. While it's fun to chat with her over text, you still have to keep in mind why you're actually doing it – it's because you want to meet up with her! So don't drag the text exchange on for too long or you run the risk of boring her (and if she's bored, she will stop responding to you!). You can't drag the discussion on forever. This means that eventually, you will have to ask her out! Don't wait too long for the "perfect moment," because it might never come. Just ask her out in a nonchalant way without making a huge fuss about it. While it might be a big deal for you, don't let it show or you'll break rule number one!

While women would never admit it, they want to date a guy who has options. This means that he could have anyone he wants but chooses her over all the other girls. This is why you should ask her out like it's not a big deal for you (because it really isn't) - you'll come across as a guy who asks her out because he wants to, not because he needs to. And if she, for whatever reason refuses, everything isn't lost yet. Just ignore it and continue talking to her like nothing happened, and after some time, try again. Only if she stops responding to you completely or tells you off, should you actually give up.

5. Know when to quit. Like we already mentioned, you shouldn't give up lightly. But if you're hoping she will come around when you just keep sending her more messages, then you're just wasting your time on someone who isn't interested. If she isn't interested in meeting you or responds to you just to be polite (always very short sentences and you even have to drag them out of her), then don't try to convince her otherwise. Move on and find a girl who is more responsive.

You can't get every girl, so give up on the ones who aren't interested in you because you are just wasting your time on them. Even if it's painful to give up on the special one, you are only making it worse, if you don't!


In Conclusion

These were some basic rules for texting a girl. Of course, there are many more things you should keep in mind when you are about to send a message to a girl. And if you're serious about becoming better at texting women (and therefore raise your chances with every one of them), then you should definitely take a look at How2TxtHer. It's probably one of the best programs for someone just starting out in text game. It takes you step-by-step through all the stages of texting, until you get the girl!

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The Best Texts to Send a Girl You Like

Pretty girl in red textingIt really shouldn't surprise anyone that some guys struggle with texting girls. They have a hard time figuring out what exactly to send someone they have a crush on. Because they really like her and badly want to make it work, they spend way too long about thinking of the perfect message to send her. But actually, it isn't that difficult, as long as you stick to a specific blueprint you will do just fine.

Every girl is different and they will respond to your messages differently. While some may find a specific thing funny and interesting, others might not react to it the same way. That's why finding the "perfect message" that works every time on every girl is not something you should be looking for. In fact, you don't even need to craft some overly convoluted, canned message to a girl. As long as you do some things right and avoid the bigger pitfalls, you will get a positive response.

How to Craft the Perfect Message

Your first goal while texting should be to make it fun for her. If you can do that, you are already halfway there. Every guy that can make her laugh, will also get a response from her. Learn to do that and she will eagerly wait for your messages (if you need help with that, then the Text That Girl will teach you). Making sure your texts are funny isn't only a good way to get a response, but girls are actually attracted to guys who don't take things too seriously and can make them laugh.

There are different ways you can make texting fun for her. If you aren't the funniest guy around, there are other ways you can bring a smile on her face without cracking joke after joke. Probably the easiest way is to tease her through text messages. Girls react well to being teased in a flirtatious way. Poke fun of her (not in an insulting but in a playful manner) and she will react to it and respond. This not only heightens the mood of the conversation but also makes her see you as a confident guy because you're not trying to impress or suck up to her.

Of course, you teasing could also lead to bantering. This is where she actually invests into the conversation and engages you by teasing back. Bantering doesn't necessarily mean disagreeing or arguing with the other person but more like a playfully fighting - you make fun of her and she counters. This not only makes her open up to you, but it also helps her to become more comfortable talking to you.

Now, if you want to joke around and have fun, then be authentic with it. This means that you shouldn't try to make jokes that she might find funny. If you are sending a message to put a smile on her face, you better have one first. Only send things yourself genuinely find funny. No high-status man tries too hard to make her laugh, he has fun and engages her in it.

Another thing that's very important is to keep your interaction with her relatively short. Your goal should be to meet her face-to-face. No matter how fun your texting sessions are, she can't really "fall for you" unless you meet up with her. So, instead of focusing on the best texts to send a girl you like, focus on getting her to meet up with you. Even when your conversations start out great and pick up momentum, eventually they will die down, if they lead nowhere.

What does this mean to you? Well, for once, don't beat around the bush. You should be quite direct with her. Even when you are joking around with her, the conversation should still be leading to a date. This is why you have to push for it as soon as possible. And tell her, don't ask, that you want to go out with her. Offer her a time and location and don't give up before she agrees to it, or shuts you out completely. There is no point in wasting your time and energy on a girl who has no intentions of meeting up with you.

And if you really want to joke around with her, you can still do that, but be sure to secure the date first. This way you still have a chance to see her, even when your conversation gets too long-winded and dies down. So, the best texts you can send to a girl should all be fun and get to the point as fast as possible.

But let's shortly take a look at the pitfalls as well, this way you will get a better overview.

The Mistakes of Texting a Girl

It is really obvious but so many guys still miss the mark on this - if you don't get a message from her right away, never start bombarding her with follow-up messages. While you may grow impatient when she doesn't respond to you immediately, you need to have some discipline and wait at least a day for her to answer. Constant texting and checking up on her with every passing hour is definitely a no-go and will make you look desperate.

You should also avoid complimenting her too much. Sure, feel free to give her a compliment right after you teased her, but never go full "compliment mode" on her where you tell her how special she is and how lucky you are talking to her. Again, you will just look desperate.

Like I already mentioned before, don't send her messages that could be considered "filler". It adds nothing to the text exchange and takes you away from your goal (meeting her). Not only that, but she will just lose interest if you don't engage her emotionally. This also goes for making your text too long-winded. If you send her a wall of text, she might not even bother with responding. Text messages should be short and get to the point. If she has to read an essay from you, she won't be entertained. In short, don't be boring or she will lose interest.

Last but not least, you need to avoid looking desperate or too eager when you text her. I know, I already mentioned this but it's vital because too many guys go wrong with this. Like mentioned before, they either send her walls of texts or start sucking up to her. Even texting her every time immediately after receiving her messages can make you seem like you're too desperate. You have to get rid of desperation, not only will it mess up your text game, but it also screws you over when you meet up with her.

The Best Texts to Send a Girl You Like

So, let's put this all together. Your texts should be fun and get straight to the point. They don't have to be perfect, but definitely devoid of boredom and fluff. Don't overcomplicate things by trying to come up with the best texts. Texting should still be a fun activity you both can enjoy. If you are texting girls, don't overthink things and whatever you do, never show that you are desperate for her affection.

There really is no perfect text message to send her. Just follow these simple steps and you will do just fine. Of course, this article only scratched the surface. If you want to dive into specifics, then you should really take a look at the Text That Girl. It will change the way you text girls by giving you a better idea how to improve your texting, what women think when receiving your messages and helping you to avoid even more mistakes along the way.

Texting a Girl for The First Time

texting-girl-first-timeComing up with the perfect first text message to a girl can be a real challenge sometimes. If you mess it up, you might not get a second chance. Even if you send her a follow-up text, you will just make your situation worse with every following message, especially if you have no idea what you are doing.

That's why the first message is often the most important one. If she responds to it, the interaction with her won't usually end there. But what exactly should you be texting a girl for the first time? What do you write her? How do you make your first text message enticing enough, so you definitely get a response?


What Should You Text Her to Get a Response?

There are a couple of things you should keep in mind before you text a girl for the first time. Probably the most important one is to realize where you stand with her. If you are absolutely sure that she is into you, you can take a bit more casual approach in your first text message. But adding humor to the mix will definitely only improve your chances.

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Now, if you just met her and got her number without getting to know her that well, your first message has to be funny and interesting. It should get her reacting to it in some way. She also has to realize from your text that you are someone whom she would want to respond to. It's also good if she instantly remembers who you are and how she met you. You can also help her along by starting the message with something you both experienced while meeting her – some inside joke you had with her, or just something that caught your attention while talking to her. Hell, you can even give her a nickname and start with that, if she did or said something that was out of the ordinary.

So, if you approached her and she first gave you a cold or angry look and you brought it up in your conversation with her, you can start with something like this:

Hey player! Still a bit shaken up by the look you gave me when I approached you... So, what's up?

In the case that your interaction with her was too short and she might not even remember you at all (because girls can give their number to a lot of guys), you have to bring your A-game. This means that your message should be so funny and awesome to her, that she can't resist responding. But more importantly, you have to make yourself stand out from all other guys who are texting her!

The golden rule of sending text messages to a girl you like is to keep it short and sweet. Never send a woman a wall of text as the very first message. It will just leave a desperate impression of a guy who tries too hard. That's why all of your texts should be a couple of sentences max. and get straight to the point.

Let's assume now that you are sending a message to a girl you hardly know. For this reason, you should avoid all the predictable, boring messages guys normally bombard her with. But how do you make yourself stand out?

The key is to add humor with a bit of randomness into your first message. You can start with a totally normal message and then turn it into something really random and funny. You don't even have to come up with an elaborate joke, just describe your day (or make it up) and add something unexpected and funny into the mix:

I was helping this old lady cross the street today and as a thanks, she told me what a handsome young man I am and gave me her number. Looks like you got competition! How's your day?

Make your first message fun and memorable and unless she has no sense of humor at all, you will get a response.


Taking Texting to the Next Level

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How to Tease a Girl Through Text Messages

A hot girl textingTeasing a woman has always been a great way for a guy to flirt and build attraction with her. If done right, teasing lowers a woman's defenses and makes her comfortable talking to you. It will also make you look more confident because you aren't trying to suck up to her.

Teasing a girl over text can also be used as a tool to build sexual tension between the two of you. For this reason alone, teasing is definitely a great way of flirting you should use whenever you are texting a girl you like.

But before we move on to the part where we take a closer look at how to tease her, it is important to go over some of the things you might be doing that could backfire on you.


If You Want to Tease Her

Before you can tease a girl over text messages, you should know a couple of things first:

1) If you tease her, make sure that she will respond favorably to it. This means that you should always present yourself as a fun and adventurous guy over your texts. Sometimes guys start their texts with something boring or dull and then suddenly move on to teasing her. This can give her an impression that they are mocking her. For this reason, you should always make your texts fun and present yourself as an adventurous guy right from the get-go. This way you are guaranteed to succeed in teasing her.

2) When you tease her, avoid things that can be taken too seriously. It should be pretty obvious that you avoid teasing about things like political views, religion, her personal life and things she might find very important. And if she seems like someone who takes some things way too seriously, avoid them. The best course of action here is just to start with something very light that won't backfire on you, in case she doesn't find it funny.

Now, since we cleared the no-nos out of the way, let's take a look how to tease a girl through text messages.


How to Tease Her Over a Text Message?

The rule of thumb here is to always keep your texts fun and upbeat. You don't even need to come up with very elaborate ways of teasing her. What usually works the best is the interactions you already had with her. If she said something you thought was funny to you, you could definitely use that to your advantage.

Redhead looking at phoneAlso, blowing something she said way out of the proportion can also be used "against her." As long as you make it funny, it will work flawlessly. Even better, if she says something that can be taken two ways, you can accuse her of having a dirty mind and thinking only about "one thing." You can even take this one step further and use role reversal where you berate her of only wanting you only for your body. Obvious overdramatization will work almost all the time because it's too absurd to be taken seriously.

Of course, there are much more ways you can tease her over your text messages:

  1. You can give her a nickname and call her that whenever possible.
  2. Point something out that she said that could be considered embarrassing and nerdy.
  3. Talk to her like a parent and berate her when she says something that can be taken as inappropriate.
  4. You could even disagree with her just for the fun of it.
  5. Just stereotype her in a humorous way.

The more creative you can get at it, the better your delivery will be, and the better results you will see.


How to Tease Her the Right Way

Just bear in mind to always keep it as fun and as simple as possible. Don't overcomplicate things by trying to squeeze your teasing into a serious conversation. If you both are having a good time while texting each other, eventually she will present you with enough material for you to tease her. Then, it's just up to you to recognize when it's the right time to tease her.

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How to Text a Girl You Barely Know

A hand holding a mobile phoneSo, you went out and met an awesome girl. Unfortunately, you didn't have enough time to hang out with her and get to know her better. But the good news is that you got her number! She even hinted about meeting you again. After that, you two parted ways, and you haven't talked to her yet.

This has to mean that you have a good chance of seeing her again, right? If you only played your cards right, she might even end up as your girlfriend! But right now, you only have her number. So, what now?

If you aren't the kind of guy who immediately calls a girl when he has her number, your best option is to text her. Not only is this a great alternative to calling, but it also gives you the luxury of coming up with things to say. But how exactly do you text a girl you barely know? How do you start the message? What do you say?


What to Text a Girl I Just Met?

The very first thing you should do when you are texting a girl is to make your messages interesting. Therefore, avoid starting a conversation with boring, average texts like "what's up?" or "how are you?". In fact, try to avoid such dull messages altogether whenever you are texting any girl, ever! Every message you send should have an adventurous vibe to it and make her anticipate your next one (to learn this, check out How2TxtHer).

For this reason, always start your first message with something funny, preferably something you did together. This is because of two reasons:

1) She might not remember you anymore if you met her somewhere where she runs into a lot of people (club or bar environment), therefore texting her and bringing up something you both experienced reminds her who you are.

2) It creates immediately an image in her mind about the two of you and the fun you had together.

Bringing up something like this, even a joke you both had when you were together, is guaranteed way of getting a positive response from a woman. Another great thing about this kind of text is that when she responds, you already have something to talk about and can continue from there.

Now, when you are confident that she will remember you but your interaction with her wasn't particularly memorable, you can send her a funny text like "Stop thinking about me!". This kind of message is great because it gives you the vibe of a funny and cocky guy – someone women love. When she likes you, she will probably respond with something funny as well, or even admit that she, in fact, did think about you.

From there, continue you with funny and exciting. But keep your messages short and light. Don't try to create serious discussions with her because it kills the mood (you can have them when you are already dating her). Also, send her something you find genuinely funny and not something you think she might like. Seeing how she reacts to your messages is a good way of telling you if you are compatible.

Also, never expect her to pick up the slack in your conversations. Unless she is really attracted to you and messages you first, you have to be the one who leads the conversation. You should still be the one who brings fun and excitement in the text exchange. You are leading and she is just reacting to you, not the other way around.


Taking Texting to Another Level

Knowing what to text a girl is very important if you want to make her attracted to you. For this reason, you need to know exactly what you are doing, especially if you text a girl you barely know. You should also have a basic understanding how attraction works and how to start a text conversation with a woman. Knowing these things will help you to take it from just messaging her to dating her.

You probably already know that the tips I just gave you are quite basic. That's why you should take a look at this course that goes further into this topic and teaches you how to message women so they reply.