If you are on the lookout for the best conversation topics, then I’ve got some news for you – you are probably looking for the wrong things. That’s because you’re assuming the topic is what makes her interested in you, and if you can’t sweep her off her feet with it, she might not even want to talk to you at all.
Now of course, there are topics that will really help you to connect with girls (and we will take a look at them in this article) but you should know something first: when you are always searching for the best ones, you are also holding yourself back.
I know this because I have done it myself several times in the past with girls I liked. This is usually because you think that what you are saying isn’t good enough for a woman or that you will come across as weird. And trust me, this kind of thinking will seriously limit your success with the ones you like.
So, what’s the answer? Should you stop searching for the “very best topics” and talk about anything you want? It even makes sense because if a woman really likes you, she will obviously at least try to agree with whatever you say. But the answer isn’t this straightforward because it really depends. There are definitely topics you should never bring up, topics that instantly kill the attraction in the conversation and ruin any chance you had with her. But then there are topics that will really help you to connect with her and even build attraction. That’s why we should take a look at both sides of the argument.
Now, before we take a look at what the best conversation topics with a girl are, let’s briefly look at the ones you should steer clear of.
Topics You Should Avoid
Whenever you are talking to a girl, she will always be on the lookout for how confident you feel in your own body. If you are a confident person, you can say almost anything and still get away with it. That’s because you are leading the conversation and she is just following your lead. And as long as you stay confident and don’t wait for her reaction when you say something, you will do fine.
But there are certain topics you should still avoid. Probably three of the biggest are your ex, politics and religion. This is where people tend to clash the most (for the last two at least).
The reason why you shouldn’t bring up your girlfriend is simple – it’s basically a lose-lose topic. If you start talking about what a bitch your previous girlfriend was, she will know immediately that if she were to date you and then break up, you would badmouth her the same way. It also tells her that you can’t let go of things, which makes you look really immature. If you talk too highly of your previous girl, however, she might assume that you’re still not over her and no matter how convincing you are, it’s not a good thing.
But what if she brings it up? Simple, tell her about your ex, in the past tense, what a wonderful gal she was but that it just didn’t work out between you two. This will give you major brownie points for showing yourself in a very mature light and telling her that you are someone who cares about others, even when they aren’t in your life anymore.
For politics and religion, this should be really obvious. These two topics are minefields where you will find conflicting views no matter what. So stay away!
Of course, there are more subjects you could avoid but if you stay congruent and confident while speaking about them, you can get away with it. For example, if you are making self-deprecating jokes and stay self-confident, she will see the inconsistency and just laugh at it. That’s why you don’t really have to worry too much about holding yourself back when you feel confident in a situation.
Now, since we got the no-no’s out of the way, let us focus on the good conversation topics with a girl you like.
The Best Topics
The secret of a great conversationalist is that he knows how to be passionate about the things he speaks of. So, if you talk with passion about the things you want, you are going to do just fine. This is the best way to speak to any girl you like.
There is one pitfall you have to avoid here, though. When you are talking to a girl you really like, never talk to her about things just so you can impress her. Women are really good at seeing through this kind of behavior and will not act favorably to it. Therefore, try to avoid this as much as you can, until you know how to impress a woman without being too obvious about it.
Here are some excellent topics to talk about: your passions, her passions, your life goals, her life goals, simple things that make her happy, simple things that bring happiness to your life… well, I think you get where I’m going with this. Talk about things that create emotions in her (but also in yourself). Every topic that creates positive emotions is a good one. And if you are really passionate about something and put some emotion behind it, you will draw her in.
But what you really should understand about this is that there aren’t any particular subjects you should focus on. Like I said before, if you are confident, you will have no problems talking about anything that you want. If you manage to stay confident and congruent in what you say, it doesn’t matter what you say!
Bringing it All Together
So as we can see, you don’t have to stick to specific topics with women. If you can demonstrate to her that you are a passionate person and manage to bring this out in her as well, not only does she want to continue talking to you, she will also become attracted to you.
But if you are really struggling with this, then I might be able to help you further. If you want to improve your conversational skills so you can build great and lasting connections with the girls you are talking to, I highly recommend you this guide: Say Hello. It’s a course that will make you a skilled conversationalist.
And if you want to take it a step further and go from talking to a girl to making her your girlfriend, then there is no better course for this than the Girlfriend Activation System. Therefore, take a look at it if you want to get a loyal girlfriend.
Also, since I mentioned this several times in this article but didn’t offer you any solutions, I should note that both of the above-mentioned courses will help you to become more confident as well, if this is something you need to fix.