My last article talked about how to overcome insecurities in a relationship. A man, who never struggles with insecurity issues, or in fact, any other relationship related issues, can be considered an alpha male. But how does he behave in his relationships? And with what kind of mindset and expectations does he start a relationship?
Well, let’s just find out!
Just one thing before we start – don’t panic if you aren’t doing everything that is on this list in your relationship. If your relationship is going just fine, don’t try to force these things. Just keep them in mind and use them as guides to improve yours.
However, if your relationships always end in catastrophes, then this list will be of benefit to you.
So, without further ado, here are 5 examples on how an alpha male behaves in relationships (and how you should too):
Has an abundance mentality. First and foremost, the alpha possesses an abundance mentality – maybe the biggest difference between him and a normal guy. When the average Joe gets into a relationship because he can’t stand to be alone, an alpha male gets into a relationship because he found a girl he wants as his girlfriend.
The biggest difference between the two: one of them needs the girl; the other one wants the girl.
When an alpha man decides to become exclusive with a woman (yes, he is usually the one making the decision), he goes into this relationship with a specific mindset – he know he has a lot to offer and that’s why he will never compromise his integrity by acting needy or desperate.
And if it, for whatever reason, doesn’t work out with one girl, he knows that there are other women around. He won’t obsess about the girl he lost and therefore won’t be affected by the loss so much as other men would.
This doesn’t however mean that he takes the relationship lightly. He cares like any other man, but with the exception, that he isn’t dependent on the woman.
Has his own stuff to do. Guys often make the mistake in relationships where they lose all interest in the things they used to do and dedicate all their attention to the woman. Before they had a girlfriend, they were busy with their own lives (friends and hobbies) but after she came into the picture, everything had to be suddenly dropped and she became the center of the attention.
An alpha male is always busy, even when he is in a committed relationship. He has his own stuff to do and places to be. He won’t suddenly drop everything just to be with her. He will always find the time to his friends and doesn’t dependent on her company alone. In fact, he balances the time he has for his girlfriend and friends.
He isn’t searching for a girlfriend to define him. When guys get into a relationship, they usually change for better or worse (depending on what kind of girl they are dating). The problem here is that many men don’t really have a firm sense of reality about who they are and when they find a girlfriend, they hope she will define it for them.
So, she will be the one who defines who he is as a person and he will become totally dependent on her. This will eventually backfire when she decides, that he isn’t worth her time anymore and leaves him.
That’s why many men could learn a lot from an alpha male. He already knows who he is and there is not much a woman can do to change that. Sure, when he thinks that she can guide him to a better path, he takes it, but initially it’s still his decision. When an alpha starts the relationship, it will never cross his mind, that he needs her to define him as a person.
He is making the decisions. Women want a decisive man, period! If a guy can’t make a simple decision by himself and always has to rely on his girlfriend to make the final call, eventually she will start to lose attraction for him. Even when he is just trying to be nice and considerate, women oftentimes see it as a weakness.
An alpha is always the “guy with the plan”. His girlfriend knows that she can rely on him 100% to make the tough decisions. She will always turn to him when they need to make a decision and he will have the final say. This doesn’t mean he discards her opinion completely. He always considers the opinion of a woman, but when it comes to making important calls, he won’t hesitate to make them.
He isn’t a pushover. Many men in relationships lack a backbone. The woman is the one who makes all the important decisions and has always her way. These guys just don’t know when to take a stand and use the word “no” when it’s needed. They do everything to avoid a confrontation with a woman.
I have actually written about this already that a woman always tests a man and if he seems like a spineless wimp, she will dump him. This is why guys need to learn how an alpha handles these situations.
The alpha male isn’t afraid of speaking his mind and getting into a disagreement with his girlfriend. When it’s obvious that his girlfriend is testing him, he has no problems responding accordingly and making it clear that he doesn’t tolerate her behavior. She might not like it, but in the long run she will respect him for it.
These five simple examples represent how an alpha male would behave in his relationship with a woman. And of course, these are just some basic examples. If you found them useful and want more, be sure to check out the Secrets of the Alpha Man program!