Have you ever noticed that people with different personalities get treated differently?
The guy who is always grumpy is usually avoided by others, while someone with a positive attitude will often have people surrounding him. It's not hard to figure out why: they both are at the opposite ends of the spectrum - one brings only negativity, while the other joy into people's lives. But then there is the crazy guy, someone you can't really place anywhere, and people just… well, they love him!
Now, just for clarification: in this context, crazy means unpredictable and interesting and not crazy as "wearing a tinfoil hat while yelling at you from a dumpster, crazy".
The Secret Behind It
The one rule that has persisted throughout the ages is that if people perceive you as interesting, it's easier for you to succeed in life. That's because people love someone who can bring excitement into their predictable, mundane lives. So if someone like that comes around, they want him to stick around and reward him for it.
And of course, another thing that speaks in favor of being spontaneous and interesting is that it will be much easier to succeed in attracting women. Because women absolutely love it.
In an ideal world, every one of us would be awesome; the cool guy women just can't stop thinking about. But that's just not possible. And maybe that's even for the best, because we need variety in life. Without it, everybody would basically be the same, and that would make us boring again.
But that's actually how beautiful girls feel most of the time. They are bored by all the guys who hit on them with some dull lines and never do something that would sweep them off their feet. And this is where the guy who is a bit crazy will have an advantage.
But what exactly makes him so successful? What is his big secret? How is it possible that even as an average looking guy, he still has gorgeous girls surrounding him on every step?
The reason for it is actually simple. He has something that you might lack.
What Makes Someone Irresistible?
Recently a gorgeous girl said to me that she is attracted to guys who are a bit crazy. And she wasn't lying. If you would start acting a bit crazy around a girl, you would notice the difference how she reacts to you. These crazy, unpredictable behaviors you demonstrate make her heart beat a little faster and gives her a rush of excitement.
So what exactly are these crazy things? You probably can come up with some ideas on your own, but let me give you some examples:
- When you are meeting up with a girl and instead of taking her out to a restaurant, you take her skydiving.
- When you take her mountain climbing, instead of walks on the beach.
- When you call her in the middle of the night just to talk to her for a bit and then hang up.
- When you take her swimming, in the middle of the night.
- When in one moment you tell her how you love spending time with her and then disappear for a week, leaving her wondering.
What made these examples so special? If you guessed that all of them displayed an element of unpredictability with a combination of adventure (risk), then you can pat yourself on the back. Doing them leave girls always wondering what you are going to do next.
You could use this to your advantage. If you can keep things unpredictable, fun and interesting with a girl, you will have no problems keeping her attracted to you. And the thing about these spontaneous ideas is that there is no need to go over the top with them. Just keep it simple and fun.
Do simple things, but make them memorable and exciting. This is what women love the most and what makes them come back for more.
See, the thing is, it's not actually acting all crazy that makes some guy attractive, but actually how unpredictable he is. Because no one knows what he is going to do next, women find him extremely attractive.
And don't assume that some guy who is the exact opposite of a crazy guy has to suddenly go from one end of the spectrum to the other just to get women interested in him. No, he just needs to learn that being too predictable is a turn-off for women. Therefore, using some elements of unpredictability will really help him to become more interesting.
What I'm saying here is this: a woman loves excitement, and if you can deliver her the excitement she so desperately craves, she will love you for it.
But if you lack even the basic skills to attract women - how to go up to a girl and talk to her - you should start with this and move your way up. Because acting crazy around a girl works only if she is already interested in you. To learn how to get women excited about talking to you, you should take a look at Ignition.