Every man who cares even slightly about the relationship with his girlfriend will put some effort into keeping it harmonious. And he does that by trying to keep her happy. However, for some, this doesn't quite work out the way they're hoping for.
Oftentimes the guys who try the hardest to keep their girlfriend happy end up doing the exact opposite – they make her miserable. But why is that? Are they doing something wrong?
To give you a short answer: yes, they are! In fact, because they try to keep her happy it becomes the exact reason why she is unhappy! Of course, this kind of bold statement requires a more in-depth explanation.
So, let me tell you why some guys never seem to make their girlfriend happy, even though they try the hardest, and then let's look at how you can avoid their fate...
What You're Doing Wrong
Sometimes your girlfriend's unhappiness can come directly from the things you do, or don't do – like leaving the toilet seat up or refusing to ask for directions when you're clearly lost. Sometimes it's just because she feels neglected by and wants to spend more time together. But apart from the last thing, these are just minor problems, problems you can fix yourself.
However, if you're doing everything "right" and she still seems miserable, the problem goes way deeper than just doing things for her. In fact, it might be because you're doing things for her that make her unhappy! To explain this statement a bit better, let us take your average relationship as an example where a man who cares about his girlfriend still does things that upset her:
Because the majority of people keep their independence when starting a relationship (don't become dependent on their partner), they will have different opinions on different matters. This means that from time to time, they will get into arguments with their partner. Occasionally the man in the relationship could even lose his temper and react negatively towards his girlfriend because she said or did something that went against his views. But despite all of this, she is still happy with him! So why is that?
While you might think that this kind of behavior is always bad (and it definitely can be if taken to the extreme) it also demonstrates to a woman that her man has the strength to stand up for himself. Sure, you shouldn't flip out when your girlfriend does something you don't like, but you also shouldn't just be too accepting with everything she does or says.
You see, when a guy who tries to keep his girlfriend happy no matter the cost, he will have to make some sacrifices. He will have to give in in arguments and forgo things he wants – all to keep her content. But the problem with this kind of approach is that it won't work!
While you're desperately trying to keep her happy, it backfires on you because she loses respect for you. Women want to be with a man who actually has the mental fortitude to say "no" every now and then. So when a guy tries to please her just to keep her happy at all times, he demonstrates exactly the opposite! While losing your temper isn't cool, it at least shows her that you respect yourself enough to make yourself heard when something isn't to your liking.
But what's the solution? To pick fights with her and refuse to do things for her? Not really...
How to Actually Keep Her Happy
For a relationship to work, both partners need to be willing to make sacrifices. This means that sometimes you can let her have her way but this also means that it shouldn't be you who is always making the sacrificing! If you fall into this kind of pattern, then she's not going to stay happy in the long run.
The secret to keeping your girlfriend happy is not to look at the short-term effects but at the bigger picture. This means that sometimes you need to be ready to upset her in the moment just so she can actually stay happy in the long-term. However, if you too terrified of angering her, then this is exactly the problem!
A woman who decides to get into a relationship with you needs to look up to you, or at least see you as an equal. If she doesn't, she is going to lose attraction for you and eventually dump you. No woman wants to be in a relationship with a guy whom she considers beneath her. So, if you start acting like she's someone who you have to keep happy at all times, no matter the costs, you demonstrate to her that you are, in fact, beneath her!
So what can you do?
Stop trying to please her and start standing up for yourself! If she's unhappy about something, it's not your job to always try to fix it! If she's angry at you and expects you to do something that goes against your values, don't do it no matter what! It's not like she's going to start hating you for making her give in some of the times. On occasion, she actually secretly hopes that you take charge in a situation and don't let her run things (she's testing you).
Yes, by doing so you will have way more arguments with her and you're going to upset her… but at least she doesn't lose respect for you! Furthermore, if she actually sees that you can stand up for yourself and don't feel the need to please her, she will stop fighting you and actually be more happy with you.
What it eventually boils down to is that you don't do things for her just to keep her happy but actually present yourself as a man who respects and values himself. While she's going to play an important part of your life, it doesn't mean that your world should revolve around her!
She also needs to see that you've got a spine and don't just bend backward whenever she asks you to do something unreasonable – when she's testing you. Sometimes she's just waiting for you to stand up for yourself and say no, just to see your strong, masculine side. But if every time she gets what she wants, she starts to realize that she made a mistake by getting into a relationship with you.
Of course, it should be noted that just fixing this aspect in your relationship doesn't immediately fix everything that's wrong with it. You should also be able to do other things like taking care of problems, staying strong in hard times and being someone she can rely on. But if you're guilty of this "trying to please" behavior, then fixing it's definitely a step in the right direction!
If you want to learn what traits to demonstrate to keep her happy, take a look at the article alpha male in relationships, or you can also get my newly launched e-book course Rules of the Alpha Male. Aside from the main book that will help you to stay a badass alpha in your relationship, it also has one book specifically dedicated to keeping your relationship healthy!
How to Find a Good Woman and Keep Her
Many men often say that a good woman is hard to come by. But the exact same thing can be said about men as well. Because, believe it or not, women have standards too. This means that you can't expect to get a good woman if you aren't a quality guy yourself.
The secret to finding a good woman and keeping her is to be as good, if not better, than her. That's because even if they won't admit it, women still want to be with someone they can look up to. Hey, we all want to have the best partner possible! So if you aren't one of the best, then finding a good partner is going to be a hard task for you, keeping her, even more so.
To clarify: "being better" in this context doesn't mean that you are in some way superior to her, it just means that you are more grounded in your own reality and know your worth as a man. Women want to be with someone who has mental strength, so "the best man" is the one who has his shit together and is commonly referred to as an alpha.
Before Finding Her...
Now, before we move on to the "finding her" part, we should take a look at who you actually consider as a "good woman." This is vital for one simple reason: if you don't know who you're looking for, you won't know when you have found her. Of course, this will mostly depend on your personal preference, that's why you have to figure this out on your own before going to look for someone.
So your very first step to finding a quality girl is to make a list of all the things a woman needs to have for you to consider her as dating material. Even write these things down if you have to! Also, while you're at it, make a note of all the negative qualities you wouldn't tolerate about your future partner. By creating this list you get a good overview of what kind of person you actually want and disqualify girls that aren't suited for you. This will save you a lot of headache on your quest to find the right one.
The only rule here you have to follow is that you demonstrate standards. While the perfect girl doesn't exist, don't just blatantly ignore things about her just because you think you could change her, or use her beauty as an excuse to compensate for negative qualities. If you can't follow this simple rule, you are just heading for a disastrous relationship! For example, if you are looking for someone who is beautiful and honest, then don't just brush off her constant lying just because she is hot.
You need to demonstrate high standards to get a great woman. This also comes back to what I said in the beginning about mental toughness and being an alpha! If you cave in every time she does something that violates your standards, she will start to consider you as not good enough for her. That's why you have to walk away from women who aren't right for you, no matter how beautiful they are.
But if you already have a clear picture of the girl you want, then the next step will be to find her...
How to Find a Good Woman
Many say that you will never find a good long-term partner in a bar or a club. But that's not entirely true. While it's true that you are more likely to run into an intelligent girl at a library, don't just rule out a club or bar on a Friday night, especially when all the libraries are closed anyway. Hey, even the smart ones feel the need to let loose and enjoy themselves, so you will eventually run into them in places you least expect.
You could basically find someone great everywhere, you just have to look a little bit harder. While you won't find a good woman as often in clubs as you find girls who love to party (and who says they can't be good women?), it doesn't mean you will never find her there. That's why you shouldn't disqualify a location just because of something you have heard from someone else. Most guys have no idea how to attract women, that's why they will dismiss a location just because they haven't had success there. You, on the other hand, have to be different!
Your goal here should be to increase your odds, and the only way to do that is to go everywhere where you get the opportunity to meet new people. And of course, you should visit these places as often as possible. You can't really expect to find someone great if you only go out a couple of times per month. If you are serious about finding a great gal, you have to invest some time and energy into finding her. This means go out as often as possible and interact with everyone you think is worth it.
How to Keep a Good Woman Interested
Trust me, it's not hard to keep a good woman if you are a quality guy - no woman will dump a badass for a loser! So, if you have a hard time keeping her, then you have to do something many men aren't willing to do: you have to take a hard, honest look inside and figure out what you're doing wrong. While shifting the blame to someone else might make you feel better, it's not going to solve your problems. In fact, it's making them worse - you are keeping yourself down by creating limiting beliefs and start to make excuses why you're always at the losing end. So, instead of admitting that you need to find a solution and improve your life, you become a victim of your circumstances.
If you truly want to stand apart from guys who never succeed, you have to take action and work on your shortcomings. You have to work on yourself and demonstrate qualities that keep her attracted to you. And the right way to do this is to become someone most women consider as a catch. Neglect to do this and you will end up alone, or in a relationship where you're not really happy.
Now, how to actually keep her? Easy, demonstrate masculine qualities like:
Confidence– This really shouldn't come as a surprise to you - you have to work on your confidence. Even if you're already in a relationship with her, you still need to show her that you're confident. A relationship isn't the place where you get the permission to drag out all of your insecurities (often many guys do just that). Show her that she is with you for a reason – that you're a confident guy.
Dominance – Dominance doesn't mean you can command her around. It means taking charge in tough situations and handling them like a boss. It means doing the right things, even if she doesn't always agree with them. She needs to see that you can take care of things and stand your ground (if needed) to fully trust you.
Independence – You should keep your independence even in a relationship. You get into one because you want a long-term partner, not to find a mother/shrink/caretaker. Show a woman that you can take care of yourself and don't rely on her for emotional support. She needs to see that you can actually take care of your own problems.
Leadership – Being a leader in a relationship is extremely important. It's a lot of responsibility – making decisions for the both of you and always knowing where you're going. If you are unable to become the leader in your relationship, most quality women won't stay with you for very long because they know that they'll always find someone who can.
Purposefulness– Maybe the most important quality is to have a certain goal in your life. A mission. Something you follow every day. Most guys make their woman their mission and lose her this way. Your mission should be bigger than her and you should work on it tirelessly every day. Someone who lacks a direction in life is basically telling her that he is not ready for a relationship simply because he hasn't figured out what he wants from his life.
These are just some of the things you need to follow to keep a woman interested in you. If you think that this is a lot of work, then you still have a long way to go to keep a quality woman interested in you. Of course, don't forget to do what every other man who's in a relationship does and treat her nice (cherish and appreciate her) but never keep relying on it to keep her happy. To truly make a woman happy, be who she wants you to be – a mentally strong man she can depend on.
Now you should have a basic idea of how to find a good woman and keep her. But one thing this article didn't cover is how to turn a girl you just met into your girlfriend. That's because this topic is very extensive and can't be condensed into one article alone. And if you're serious about finding a good woman and making her a long time partner, then this is something you should focus on. If you need help with that, then here's something to help you:
It's called The Girlfriend Activation System and it's by far one of the best guides on finding a girlfriend. That's because it takes you step-by-step through all the stages of the dating process - from finding a girl to turning her into a loving girlfriend. So, if you're serious about finding and keeping a quality woman, I advise you to check it out!
Is it true that giving the other person space means that you're about to lose them? Or does it only mean that they need some time apart from you to think some things through? No matter which it is, still a situation you don't want to be in. But what can you do in an instance like this?
When things have gone this far where your girlfriend asks you for some time apart, there is one thing you have to do: you give her some space! This means that she shouldn't be hearing from you in any way before she has made up her mind! Because, if you promise to give her space but still constantly pressure her, or try to convince her to come back, you will get the result you are trying to avoid – she will leave you.
But there is another very important thing you should do when you are giving someone space...
The Harsh Truth You Have to Face
If you are asking the question "how to give someone space without losing them," then you are really asking the wrong question. You're now at the stage where the decision whether she's coming back or not it's out of your hands and there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise.
Unless you know exactly what went wrong in the relationship and know how to fix it, you shouldn't try to mend the situation. And even if you know how to fix it, it's still better to give her some time to think things through before trying to convince her.
When you give her some space, instead of thinking about all the ways to get her back, you should actually take this time for something more important: self-reflection. You have to take a critical look inside and try to figure out the reason why she decided she needs some time apart from you! Sure, it can be that the reason she asked for a timeout has nothing to do with you, but if she decided to face it on her own instead of together with you, it's very likely that the problem is with you!
When a girl asks for some time apart, there has to be a deeper reason why she started doubting in you in the first place. This means that you have to figure it out so it won't happen again! Even if you lose her, the same thing will keep happening in your next relationships, if you don't fix what you're doing wrong.
The Reason Why She Needs Space
There could be many reasons why she might need some time apart from you. But if you can't even give her space to think things through because you are terrified of the thought that she might leave you, then this usually comes down to one reason: you are too dependent on her to feel good. And in turn, this dependency makes you very desperate and needy when you're in a relationship with her.
If you know anything about women, then you should know that they don't want to be with someone who needs them. Sure, a guy who wants them is attractive, but someone who needs them to feel better about himself is definitely not! It's a clear indication that he doesn't have anything going on in his life and needs her to make up for it. No matter how much "positive" he put in it, he takes way more out of this relationship with his constant need for affection and validation.
So, if you can't bring yourself to give her the needed space because she might leave you, then you are way too needy and desperate. In a case like this, you will do more harm than good when you're trying to get her back. It will most likely push her even further away from you because she will realize how suffocating you actually are. All you can do is to fix this behavior and hope for the best.
So, if you're ever in the situation where you have to give someone space, then actually do it and don't try to influence their decision. But more importantly, take this as a sign that you need to change something so it won't happen again. While her decision is out of your control, what you do with your life is not! This means that even if you happen to lose her, you still have the power to change things, so it won't happen again.
If you decide to change your life so you will never have to face such helpless situations ever again, then I got something for you that can help you to achieve that. It's called Rules of the Alpha Male and it will teach you how to turn yourself into someone women want to stick around.
How to Get a Girlfriend: The Step-by-Step Guide
Do you want to get a girlfriend who is beautiful, intelligent and awesome? I mean, someone really special? A person you could call your dream girl; hell, even marriage material? Well then, here is the guide to get this kind of girl.
But before we start, you have to realize something. Nothing in life that's worth a damn will come easy. So don't expect your dream girl just to walk into your life after finishing this article. You need to start taking decisive action towards this goal, or it will never become a reality. If you aren't ready to do this, then just stop reading, because this article isn't for you!
Ready to take action? Good! Then here is how you get your dream girl…
The Mindset That Gets You a Girlfriend
One reason why so many guys are still single is because they are too eager. Whenever they meet a girl who might consider them boyfriend material, they become obsessed with her and mess it up by trying to rush into a relationship as fast as possible. They're in fact so willing to make the jump, that they try to seal the deal with the very first one that comes along. Often, though, this is a terrible idea.
Getting a girlfriend is a process that should take some time. Therefore, expecting to find one fast is not going to work. A girl with a healthy mindset will never want to hurry into a relationship with a total stranger. She wants to feel it happening naturally, but there is nothing natural about rushing. That's why you need to have discipline and patience if you want her as your girlfriend. Try to move things too fast, and you will soon find yourself alone again, searching for a new one.
Your very first step to getting a girlfriend should be to change the way you think. That's also why I always advise guys to get their shit together if they want to be in a healthy, balanced relationship. By doing this, most of their problems will take care of themselves, and finding the right girl becomes easier.
Like already mentioned, some guys try to rush into a relationship. The reason why that's bad is because it will tell a girl immediately what kind of man she's dealing with – someone who is desperate. And if you didn't know this yet, then you should know that girls don't consider desperate men attractive nor relationship material. If she meets a guy who is too eager to get into a relationship with her, she will simply reject him.
Desperate people are very needy and clingy. This leads to much negativity once they're in a relationship – something most women don't want to deal with. But that's not all, a woman with a healthy mindset doesn't want a man who worships the ground she walks on or makes her his sole reason for happiness. She wants someone she can admire; someone she considers as "the price."
So, your first step to getting a great girlfriend is to eradicate your desperate, needy, scarcity mentality. You need to rid yourself of the mindset that women are rare and you will lose your chance if you don't act immediately. Take care of this problem and you will notice that girls will start to react more positively towards you. That's because you aren't only taking anymore, but actually giving back. But if you still have a hard time wrapping your head around this concept, then consider the following scenario:
What would you do if a beggar walked up to you on the street asking for your money? Would you immediately give it to him? And would you want to hang around with this person? With someone who always wants something from you, but never gives anything back? Probably not. You would stay away from such a person because they offer you no real value.
And you know why I brought up this example? Because that's you, if you show women how desperate for their affection you are. You're the beggar who always takes and never gives back. But if you actually learn to give her more than you take and show her that you are valuable, she will want to stick around.
To rid yourself of this desperate behavior around women, you first need to be cool with the idea of being alone. Don't believe what you hear from movies or pop songs; you don't actually need someone to be happy. That's bullshit! You should always be your own source of happiness. If you aren't happy, then find something that makes you happy, because this is your responsibility. Don't expect someone else (your girlfriend) to do it for you.
You need to have a bigger goal in life. Something that will make you feel worthwhile. If you don't have one, then find it. Some men hit the gym and work their ass off to get the perfect physique. Others set themselves a goal to become financially secure and wealthy. Some just travel to see and learn about the world. And then there are even guys who try to change the world by doing volunteer work that gives them a feeling of accomplishment in life.
Do you have to do one of these? Of course not! But you have to find something that drives you. Something that is important to you. Something you wouldn't sacrifice even if you got into a relationship. Because that's the problem with a lot of guys these days, they don't really feel worthy of the girl they want. They get into a relationship and make her the mission. And since they have nothing to offer, they try to make up for it with materialistic things or fulfilling her every wish to keep her happy.
But this is not what she wants! She wants to be part of your life. She wants you to take her along for the ride and feel safe knowing you are in control, and that nothing can steer you away from your course (not even her). This is when she will feel that you are the man she wants.
Once you find your life goal and actively pursue it, you will learn to be happy on your own, to be truly satisfied just being alone. And then you will lose your desperation. Then you will also learn, that you have a lot to give and know that every girl would be lucky to have you. Because you don't actually need a woman (remember, I said need, not want). And women can sense that in you and will find you extremely attractive.
If you want to get into a healthy relationship with a girl you like, you have to adopt the mindset that there are a lot of women out there and you won't miss out even when getting rejected by one (or hundred). You have to know that you have a lot to offer her - a part of your world - but don't actually need to have her around to enjoy it.
The Stages of Getting a Girlfriend
Now, since we got the mindset step out of the way, let's move on to the practical part and take you through the different stages of getting a girlfriend. You will have to go through three stages with a girl before she becomes officially your girlfriend. They are:
starting a relationship with her.
I will now go through all these three stages. Alternatively, you can also get the Girlfriend Activation System for a much more detailed guide. It will cover everything I just discussed (and will go even deeper) and give you a step-by-step system you can apply to get a girlfriend. In short, it will make the things I'm going to describe to you a lot easier to deal with and understand.
But for now, let's go through each stage:
Before you can even think about getting a girlfriend, the most important step will be to start approaching tons of girls on a consistent basis. This is also where most guys fail, because it requires a lot of discipline. Most either approach a couple of girls and then call it quits because it's too hard, or more likely, try to make it work with the very first one that appears on their radar. As you can already imagine, this is not an ideal way to get a quality girlfriend.
One thing you need to expect in this phase is to fail a lot. But you also need to keep yourself motivated to push through all the bullshit you will encounter – the rejection, awkwardness and sometimes even ridicule. You need to have the discipline to stick to it and still go out after taking one beating after another.
If you are a complete beginner, this will also be your biggest sticking point. You will need to go through a lot to become better. You have to learn to deal with this kind of punishment and get used to it. But on the bright side, once you numb yourself to all of it, you will get better. You will get rejected less, and women will light up when meeting you (some might even start approaching you). And trust me, it's all worth the effort if you refuse to give up.
Just to let you know, no matter how good you become, you will still get rejected by some girls – your personalities, preferences or some other things just won't match. The only thing you can do is to accept it. And I'm not saying it to demotivate you, but to get you used to the idea that rejection will happen to you no matter what. It will be a part of the learning process. You can not avoid it. The only way you will never get rejected, is when you never approach. So don't let it get to you!
The one thing that's going to help you deal with this madness of approaching and rejection is to make it fun for yourself (and her as well). Never think about this stage as some kind of grind, or you will just burn yourself out, and give up. You should enjoy every moment with every girl you encounter and not worry too much about the consequences. Because in the grand scheme of things, they are irrelevant. So why not have fun with it? If you can make it fun for yourself (and her) you will feel great no matter what happens. And as a bonus, you will do much better with every girl you encounter. Who knows, you might even start to enjoy all of it (yes, even rejection).
Like I already mentioned in the first step, you should always approach girls with the mindset that you are offering value to them. Never take rejection personally or worry if you even get her or not. Have fun, share it, and you will notice that girls start lining up to meet you.
Dating Her (and Others)
Probably the biggest pitfall for guys in this stage is to focus on one girl and one girl only. This makes them lose all perspective and they become fixated on her. Then the "she is so special, I need to make her my girlfriend" mindset creeps in because they can't think straight anymore and start to obsess over her. This will majorly screw them over if they can't rid themselves of it. So, unless you can keep your emotions in check and don't become too infatuated with just one girl, you should continue seeing others as well.
And if your inner voice keeps telling you that you are being deceitful, then you should know that you're not doing anything wrong. As long as you are honest with the girls you are dating and not trying to lead them on, most will actually be cool with it. As a matter of fact, until a girl decides to become exclusive with you, she is most likely still seeing other guys as well.
The dating stage is all about getting to know her. You need to know if you two are compatible. This is also where you should be looking for red flags; basically, everything that tells you that she is not what you are looking for in a girlfriend. If you find something that is bothering you, then stop wasting time and find another girl. Don't expect her to change for you. But also, don't just dismiss major red flags just because she is "too hot to give up." You need to have high standards.
The rule here is to know what things about her you could tolerate and what not. If you don't know this yourself, then it's high time to make it clear for yourself. Just don't be too lenient and assume you could live with some major red flags. Then again, never be too harsh either, otherwise you will have a hard time finding the right gal. But knowing what you want in a girl is something you absolutely need to know before going long-term with her.
Also, when you're dating her, don't play the "yeah, me too" game where you agree with her about everything. This is where you should show her your true colors – who you really are – and if she can't deal with it, move on.
If you don't invest too much into one girl in this stage, you will do fine.
Starting a Relationship with Her
This is the final stage and most likely the easiest to start. Too many guys struggle here because they don't really know how to transition into it. But, if you did everything else right in the previous two stages, you will get into a relationship just by having a bit of patience and letting her do the asking. Unless she has no intention starting a relationship with you and enjoys casual flings too much (another good reason to date other girls), she will eventually hint that she wants more, or simply ask you.
Obviously, if you want to have a relationship with her, this is where you give up on other girls as well. And of course, you should know 100% that she is the person you want as a long-term partner.
But this is also the stage where most guys start screwing everything up. They assume that since they finally have her, they can take it easy (stop giving) and often even let themselves go. They become too complacent and eventually start neglecting her, or like mentioned before, make her their mission.
In a healthy relationship, you have to pay attention to your partner but still need to have some things that don't include her. This means that you both should have your own lives. You both should do things alone and not always depend on each other to have a good time. Don't give up on your activities, your friends or your individuality for her. Sure, you have to make some sacrifices here and there, but if you change your whole life to revolve around her, you will soon end up alone again. Your girlfriend wants to be a part of your life, not your entire life!
Of course, since you are the man in the relationship, you also need to act like one. This means that you should often take charge in a situation. It's what she expects from you. You need to become a leader with a clear goal and direction in your relationship. Just don't become a hardass and never consider her opinion or exclude her from your decisions. You should still listen to what she has to say. But if she brings something up that is in direct violation with your core values, you have to take a stand and show some backbone.
As a final note, don't get too paranoid if you do some things wrong. If she is in a relationship with you, she won't dump you at the first sign of trouble. Only if there is too much negativity, will she start to consider breaking up with you. But if she already decided to start a relationship with you, then it's for a good reason, and she will fight to stay.
If you don't lose your masculine essence in your relationship then you will have a loyal girlfriend/wife for a lifetime.
Now you should know from start to finish how to get a girlfriend and keep her. You should know what changes you have to make in your life to get the girl of your dreams. But like I mentioned at the beginning of the article: this isn't an easy task. You need to have the discipline, courage, and strength to keep going. But if you persist, you will change your life in ways you never imagined. Not even because you got a girlfriend, but because you finally realized what you are capable of.
But of course, there is always more to learn, so if you want to make this journey a bit easier for yourself, then take a look at the Girlfriend Activation System. It a step-by-step system (more detailed than mine) that will give you a complete picture of what it takes to get a girlfriend. And I really wouldn't praise it so much, if I didn't believe in it myself.
It might be a bit confusing to find the steps in this article, so here they are:
Fix you mindset and keep working on it (until the day you die)
Go out and start approaching every girl you want, find the one you like
Start dating her (and others)
Start a relationship with her (and be strong)
Here is How to Get a Loyal Girlfriend
At some point in our lives, we all want to find someone we can settle down with. So, it makes perfect sense to find the right person, someone who is actually going to see you as a long-term investment and won't betray your trust. But how do you find somebody like that? I mean, for some, it's really hard to find just a girlfriend, so finding a person who is going to stay true to you should be even harder, right?
Well, actually no, if you know what you are doing. And the good news is that there is something you can actually do about it. But this also means that you have to take some responsibility for your own actions and not hope that somehow the girl of your dreams will just walk into your life.
The Secret to Getting a Loyal Girlfriend
If you want a quality girlfriend, someone who actually stays loyal to you, then you need to do two things: 1) find her and 2) know how to make her stay. Only if you meet both of these requirements, will you be able to get the woman you always wanted.
So, without further ado, let's take a closer look at them:
1) Find her. It's really no secret that dating is basically a numbers game. The more women you meet, the more likely it is for you to find the right one. It might happen that the very first girl you meet is your soul mate, but this is extremely unlikely. So don't count on it. That's why you need to go out and meet a lot of women.
On your search, do not settle down with the very first one because you don't want to be alone. If you want to find a quality girl you also need to have standards. Usually, you are going to meet a lot of girls before you can actually find the right person. So, only settle down when you are confident that the girl you want as your girlfriend is, in fact, the one. But how do you know whether she's going to stay loyal to you or not?
Unless you know for certain that a girl is willing to cheat on her boyfriend just to meet someone else, there really aren't any good indicators of what kind of woman will stay loyal. That's why you have to rely mostly on your gut feeling and watch out for red flags that she could be breaking your trust. Resist jumping to conclusions, but also don't settle down with a girl you aren't 100% sure about.
Just one thing I think you should avoid doing on your search for "the one" is to assume that a girl is going to be a bad long-term investment if she sleeps with you on the first date. This kind of thinking will only work against you in the long run and disqualify some quality women you could meet.
2) Know how to keep her. Trust me, finding her is actually the easy part. Making her want to stay is where the real challenge begins. If you want her to stay with you, you can't naively assume she will want to stay just because she is now in a relationship. Especially, if you don't even live up to her standards and expectations. Yes, women have them too!
A lot of guys misguidedly believe that getting a girl to commit to a relationship is all it takes to make her stay; since they already have her, they don't have to put any effort into the relationship anymore. Some even throw in the wedding ring to "lock her in" so she won't leave. By doing this, they assume that the hard work is done and from now on, it's going to be smooth sailing. So they let themselves go and then blame her when she either leaves or cheats on them (although cheating is never justified!).
Now, there is no denying that some girls will cheat on her boyfriends no matter what. But if you have at least basic social skills, you will recognize such girls easily. Usually, a girl will only cheat on a guy when he has lost touch with his masculinity and has become a wimp. When he becomes someone who can't be considered a quality man anymore. And since most women don't want to date wimps, they will either leave or cheat.
Thus, if you want a girlfriend who stays loyal to you, you first have to be the kind of guy who is worth of one. If you aren't boyfriend material, there is just no way a quality girl will ever want to stay with you. Even if they aren't going to cheat on you, they will still just leave, because you're not the kind of man they want. If a girl thinks of you as the best, her Mr. Right, then she will never want to leave you, or cheat on you! But this is of course as long as you stay this guy.
If you want to know how to become such a man, I suggest reading this article.
The Right Way to Get a Loyal Girlfriend
Finding the right girlfriend is going to take time, effort and some discipline. Therefore, don't assume you will find one easily. You will have to meet a lot of girls and resist the urge to try to "make it work" with the first one (or second, or third) that happens to come along just because it's too hard to be single. Go out and meet the one that is truly worth it and then do everything in your power to also make her stay. Be the kind of man she will want to keep. Just don't expect anything of this to be easy!
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It covers everything I talked about in this article and provides you the needed skillset and the mindset to attract girls (remember, you have to meet many to find the right one) and make one of them your loyal girlfriend. So take a look at it and decide for yourself.
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How to Get a Girl Back After a Break Up
You are most likely here because you got dumped by your girlfriend and are now looking for a way to get her back. Well, in that case, I got some good news and bad news for you.
The good news is that getting her back is definitely a possibility. However, the bad news is that this might be the hardest thing you'll ever do. And even then, there are no real guarantees.
But I won't discourage you too much. If you want to know how to get a girl back after a break-up, you should be aware of what you can do about it. Now, before we move on to what you can do, here is something you should definitely avoid:
Don't beg. Begging never works and just makes you look pathetic. Instead of giving you another chance, she will lose all respect for you and any affection along with it.
No contact. If she broke up with you, it means she needs some space and distance from you. But if you can't keep yourself from calling and texting her (even worse when you try to meet up with her!), she will see that you can't even be without her. This will make you look really desperate – something you should definitely avoid.
Now since we got the most important "do not"-s out of the way, let us see what can actually be done.
How to Get a Girl Back Interested in You
You must give your ex some time and space to figure things out on her own without constantly badgering her. This way she might even start to miss you. Since people tend to focus on the positive when remembering past experiences, giving her space helps to remind her why she wanted to date you. Additionally, it gives her time to heal and remove the negative associations that led to the break up.
If she has had enough time to reflect, you can try contacting her again. But don't just wait a week and then hope she welcomes you with open arms. The time varies from person to person, but you should give her at least a month before contacting her. Who knows, she might even contact you before that to give it another try. Until then, she shouldn't hear anything from you.
When you get dumped by a girl you loved, someone you made big plans with, it can be hard to recover from that. This is why you have to take some time off to heal from the break up yourself. But your healing process shouldn't be spent sitting on your ass waiting for her to come back. Apart from all the obvious things you should be doing to keep yourself from thinking about her (spending time with friends and hobbies), this is also an important time for you to reflect on yourself.
If you want to get a girl back, you first have to figure out the reason why she left you. If it's not for obvious reasons, then you can assume that it was because of your mindset. Because of this, you might even have a harder time to admit why she left - you failed in her eyes.
Another thing you have to accept is the fact that you won't win her back by staying as you are right now. This means that you need to change. Even if she decided to take you back, she would soon leave you again because you're still the same.
The main reason why guys get dumped by their girlfriends is because they lack a strong sense of self. They are insecure, have no real direction in life and rely too much on their girlfriend for internal fulfillment. If you are unsure why your relationship failed with your girl, then this was most likely it.
How to Fix You?
Like mentioned before, the only way to fix you is to admit that you have a problem in the first place. You have to take a hard look at yourself and find your flaws. Then you need to take decisive action and do everything to get rid of them. Without fixing your problems, they will resurface and you will lose her again. Even worse, if you don't do anything about it, your future relationships will end the same way.
If you are insecure or lack a purpose in your life, you can only fix it by making positive changes to your mindset. Only by doing that, will you have a chance to get your girl back. You should also start learning about how a healthy relationship works and what part you play in it.
When you finally decide to change your life by fixing your mindset, will your girlfriend also never want to leave.